Daily Life Lessons


May 2022


Take a project ”around the horn” of a full product work flow.  Decide to go through an entire process on a single song and see what you can do!  Make it simple so you don’t get caught up in the complexity but try to go through it all. 

 

Develop a ”Daily Production Routine” that creates product that you can later edit, work with and publish.  If you’re a writer, write/journal/blog daily.  If you’re a musician play/produce/record daily.   If you’re a painter/graphics/visual artist...sketch/paint/design daily...take advantage of the digital to get it out there more quickly than ever before possible.  Work with small things and they will become larger projects with a bit of work. 

 

The Best Plans won’t work unless you do.  Time to get the plan out of your head and into your actions.  Write it down, and do it.  See how far you get and realize that it always takes longer than anticipated...  Try it today, get started, do it and keep track of your progress. 

 

Publish something today.  Get started, Just Do It.  Figure it out, take something you have ready or close enough and get it out there.  If you have a regular production routine, you’ll now benefit from it.  Get it started and it will also become a wonderful habit! 

 

Learn by doing...  Just pick a project and start working on it.  The rabbit hole will appear and you’ll take it.  Get out of your head and into actual production, actual learning, creating a project, song, poem, sound, healing, prayer...whatever it is for you.   

 

Invent a project that includes skills you want to improve or learn and get busy.  Sometimes we spend too much time in the theoretical and never get anything done and don’t make the progress we want to make for important goals...  Overthinking/Overanalyzing is really just procrastination dressed up well.  Drop it, pick a project, make it large enough that you can put several goals/skills in the same bucket and get started...see where it takes you! 

 

Get up, Dust off, Get back on track.  It’s really true that it’s not the falls but the getting back up and restarting that counts.  You’ll have reversals and difficult moments but it’s the ability to  re-engage that counts.  You know how to make it happen...remember what you already know and start again.  Just Do It!  Don’t even think about it, just start again and you’ll get your momentum back. 

 

Eat that Frog...Do your stress busters first.  Write out the things you’re avoiding in the important areas of your life and make progress before getting to the time wasters.  Time management really is Life management and will positively contribute to the quality of your day, life, relationships, work... 

 

Do a mind flush daily.  Find a way to get rid of the nagging negativity that sticks to you during the day.  Find the way that works for you and do it during your day so you don’t allow the stupid things to ruin your work, relationships, inner peace, sleep.  Take a walk, do a primal scream, talk it out with a close loved one, write, journal, exercise, meditate, pray...whatever works for you (maybe a combination of practices).   

 

Be patient, learning-growing-doing-making progress takes time.  If you’re involved in what you consider your life’s purpose, you’ll need to improve your skills and grow to get to the next level...this is a marathon not a sprint.  Expect that everything will take more time than you anticipate.  Be patient, the deep work you’re doing will pay off and soon you’ll look back at the progress and be amazed!  Keep a journal, it will be encouraging. 

 

Take a Sabbatical and concentrate on your key skill(s) that will move you forward.  Learning/growing/progress takes time, skill, consistency and dedication.  Take a Sabbatical of 1-4 hours to start with and make serious progress.  Turn off the distractions and just dig in.  The progress you make could be exponential.  Try it and see. 


Be Open to a new Awareness.  As you start really living your life’s purpose as you see it...you may experience a serious awakening, a new awareness, consciousness.  Follow the ”White Rabbit” to an adventure and paradigm shift that awaits you.  You’ll not be sorry, don’t be afraid. 

 

Decide what your ”Life’s Purpose” is and just start.  Many of us get stuck on this whole ”life purpose” thing...we never do anything, never accomplish anything, never move forward.  Just decide something that’s important to you and get started...it will become clearer as you take steps. 

 

Make one person happy.  No need to shoot for the moon or the world, just start with one person.  That person may be you.  Then move on to your next most important person and figure out how to make the two of you happy...  The knowledge of how to do it is inside you.  Quiet your mind and follow your intuition and heart...you can’t go wrong.   

 

Write a love letter to someone today.  There’s someone in your life who has hurt and needs real encouragement from you.  Figure out who that person is and write them/email them/text them... a love letter that you know will tell them how special they are to you.   

 

Write it down, make it happen.  There’s something magical about writing...It seems that it helps program our minds, brings focus, releases burdens/hurts, reveals mysteries...  Don’t believe me?!?  Give it a try.  Julia Cameron - ”The Artist’s Way” helped me start or restart and it has made all the difference.  It’s not important to me how it works, if it works, why it works...it just works and is entirely worth including in your morning (afternoon and evening) routine. 

 

Be honest about the dark side of yourself.  Every now and then it’s important to see the log in your own eye as you criticize the sliver of wood in your neighbor/relative/partner’s eye.  See your own hypocrisy, dishonesty, addictions, incongruency, lying, asshole – iol side of YOU and temper your reactions to others.  Decide to work on yourself, make progress, be better, and be less judgmental...everyone is here to learn, so are you.  Slip everyone, including yourself, a bit of slack, grace, forgiveness...You need it to from them and yourself.   

 

Find a connection.  The greatest challenge for all of us is to find connections with others.  We seem to be wired for selfishness, our own perspective, judging everything through our own Lense.  Try to find it without asking, then try just asking...you may be surprised at the answer. 

 


April 2022


Practice daily silence.  Silence – listening is a lost art.  Silence, in all of its forms, helps release what’s inside.  We fill our lives with noise of all kinds to cover the silence that brings out the spiritual and deep parts of our lives/soul/spirit...  Take some time today to actually experience silence in whatever form you’re comfortable with.   

 

Start with a simple grid/plan/procedure/groove.  Learn it, craft it, update it, work it and develop it.  A working model that you do is always better than a confused, theoretical model that you never do. Make it very simple so you can actually do it and see where it takes you. Allow yourself an hour to just explore this “workflow” and let it become part of you. Document it so you don’t forget it or lose the steps.  

 

Let anger flow through you without attaching to it.  Realize that angry thoughts/reactions are transitory, and you need to observe and let them pass through you without holding on to them.  Reach for a different thought, walk away, let your partner handle it, do something different to break the pattern.  Realize what the pattern is and let go of it.  Sometimes understanding/perspective will help.  Often, just getting out of it is the best short-term way to handle it.  Do what you need to do and then reflect.   

 

Anger is a major indicator of need for growth.  When situations set you off and you lose it...it’s an indication that you have work to do.  Our human pettiness rears its ugly head and we see just how superficial we are.  Join the club!  See it for what it is, realize that you need to change.  Get busy dusting yourself off and making the changes.  Realize that you’re not perfect and you really need to deal with whatever that issue/moment/blow-out revealed. 

 

Step by step progress, learning something slowly and deeply is the long-term strategy for growth.  Quick fixes occasionally come but it’s the deep learning and deep relationships that stick with you over time.  Decide to take your time and dig deeply in a subject that interests you.  You can only do one of these at a time so choose wisely and stick with it until you wrestle it to the ground!  Just Do It! 

 

Write a training manual.  The adage ”You learn best by trying to teach” is true.  Take your important task, write out your steps as if you’re teaching a student.  You’ll be able to replicate your procedure and you’ll be able to teach another person should that become necessary. 

 

Stay the course.  Jumping off the wagon usually comes with an expectation of some kind of thrill or short-term excitement.  Usually, you’ll find that it just brings regret, a headache and the desire to get back on the positive track.  If you’ve slipped, just restart and move forward...leave the regret and self-flagellation behind.  You know how to do the right thing for you mind and body...just do it! 

 

Decide it will be an exciting, eventful, prosperous week.  Look for evidence every day of the week you’ve created through your decision.   Let yourself dream, hope, have faith, take action ”as if,” move forward, make progress, document your progress, celebrate your progress.  See where this frame of mind takes you and what shows up ”out of the blue!” 

 

Believe the impossible.  Take a moment to reflect on the impossible and dream a scene where it comes true.  Experience the fun, enthusiasm and endorphin rush that accompanies a Wish Fulfilled.  Take your feelings for a spin.  Be open to a miracle and see what arrives ”out of the blue.”  

 

Rest in the knowledge that the Universe is in control and has your back.  We’re always in a transition either improving or moving backwards.  Sometimes a seeming backward movement is the prep time to get ready for the next offensive, the next launch, the next progress.  Rest in the uncertainty and waiting moment and make it count by doing the things you now have time for...don’t waste this precious moment. 

 

Celebrate the Good you have and are experiencing.  We all face challenges; we all have good things happening as well.  Focus on identifying that good thing and remember it, relax in it, be happy you have it...Make a conscious effort.  Remembering that feeling will help you bring more of it to you. 

 

Make small progress, take your Gig to another level. There are so many good resources on YouTube to help you learn what you need/want to learn to take your Gig to another level. Get on there and take one lesson, learn it, celebrate it, work it, take your project to the next level. JUST DO IT! Might be easier than you imagine and you’re building your learning muscle and enthusiasm as you go.  

 

Have faith that the next step is already in place and ready for you when you are. - focus on being ready. The Universe is two steps ahead of you and has already prepared the next step for you. Your job is simple: Do what’s in front of you, what you’re avoiding, prepare to receive and it will come when you’re ready. Impatience is normal but not helpful, focus on what you can do, what you know and what’s already clear. Chances are that it’s been clear for a VERY long time. Now get busy doing it.  

 

Be mindful of your health and your body’s rhythms. It’s so easy to ignore your body’s messages to you. Rest and refueling is not a value these days. If your body is telling you to slow down and recoup...you better listen or reap the consequences.  

 

Get organized, develop a workflow, produce product, publish, market, sell, move forward. Your projects need to amp up and actually go through the process to make them work. If it’s a passion, take it seriously as you would your day job. Take your own advice and JUST DO IT. The next steps will be clear and in front of you as you go.  

 

Allow yourself to do the thing that interests you.  We spend so much time doing what we feel we MUST do that we never get to the things that we really want to do.  We think we’ll do it when...we have the money, we have the time, we’ve studied enough, our relationship is good, our health is good...  Doing it WHEN is really code for never.  JUST DO IT and see how it shakes out and where it leads you... 

 

Ask for what you need.  In most relationships we expect our partner to know what we want and need and give it to us.  This mind reading is simply not possible and is a cop-out.  Work with your partner to discuss needs, expectations and how to make it work.  The alternative is conflict, hurt, misunderstanding and failure.  Fear in relationships can be fatal, find a way to communicate and get to a different place. 

 

Go on a 10-day Negativity Fast.  The greatest enemy of your mental health, your relationships, your manifestations, your business success, your physical health is negativity.  We live in a world that is full of negativity from the media and conversation.  We all seem to like to gossip and lament the bad stories.  Let it go, make a deliberate decision to not contribute, comment, gossip,” share” negative material.  Keep track of what happens!  Be prepared for surprises and positive moves forward. 

 

Make Creating Daily a Priority.  If creating brings you the enthusiasm, energy and sense of meaning, do it when during the best time of your day.  Find a creative medium that gets you creating quickly and easily.   Give yourself permission do what you love with the respect it deserves.  Make it a spiritual practice and it will take care of you.   

 

Write your own ”Holy Book”. Does the ”Holy Book” of your youth seem barbaric, out of touch, offensive, not relevant or even a bit dangerous?!? Write your own. Figure out what makes sense to you and keep track of it, write it, blog it, meditate on it... Take the challenge to actually do something that is meaningful for you. You don’t need to push it on other people. You can make sure it actually works and is relevant and meaningful to you...keep it a secret and benefit from it. You’ll find people to share with at the right moment but there’s no need to go looking for that. They will come to you and you’ll share if it’s necessary. They may even give you the next chapter or a refinement or...a change. 

 

Do something generous and anonymous for a person in need today. Put out some good vibes-Karma-Prayer-real support for someone in need today. It will encourage them and your spirit and lead to more good things. Keep it super private and it will magnify the result. Find your way to pray for the person and do it daily. Make it your miracle/faith routine and exercise this muscle daily for whomever needs it and comes to mind.  

 

Don’t take health and loved ones for granted...  At the end of the day all we really have is our health and the people we love.  Usually we don’t really appreciate it/them until there are issues-challenges-losses.  Turn that around today by focusing on what counts and saying the things you need to say so they know.  Do something positive for them, your health and make it personal. 

 

Revel, recharge, revive yourself in your ”home,” wherever that is for you.  If you find a place or create a place that makes you feel at peace, at home, loved, happy...let that place and those people fill your life and your soul...You’re very fortunate to have it.  Don’t take it for granted, let it seep into your psyche’ and fill you with the spiritual refreshment you need to continue on and face the inevitable resistance that is part of this life. 

 

Life is short, our human frailty is our limitation.  The fact that we don’t know our ”time and hour” of our life is good...don’t be deluded that you always have time...do what’s on your heart and go with with you’ve given meaning to (family, health, wealth, success, ministry, healing...).  Do the things that are on your mind and see where it takes you.  Love those around you...you never know how long they’ll be there.   

 

Develop your own curriculum.  Figure out what you need to learn and take the first step.  Develop your own learning curriculum and bibliography.  Remember that you are an author, teacher, student and are the center of this process.  Just start with one reasonable step and the next will be clear after that.   

 

Be who you are, relax and let people be who they are.  Know yourself, be yourself, let others do the same.  When you don’t need to be the center of attention but can watch others be themselves you’re really free and give that freedom to others. 

 


March 2022


Be who you are, relax and let people be who they are.  Know yourself, be yourself, let others do the same.  When you don’t need to be the center of attention but can watch others be themselves you’re really free and give that freedom to others. 

 

Feed Your Enthusiam. If you’re excited about something, it’s more interesting, you lose track of time, it’s meaningful, it’s life-giving... Understand what’s important to you, what gets you excited and feed it. Give it regular opportunities to get pumped! Your life will take off, you’ll know how to get out of bad moods, you’ll keep feeding your soul and new/exciting things will keep coming.  

 

Keep away from toxicity. Most of this toxicity comes from relationships and other people’s stuff...watch out and find a way to avoid letting it poison you!!! Focus on improving/working on yourself and what’s in front of you rather than the past or reinterpreting the past. You can never go back so stop trying! Other people’s respect is not the point. Your internal respect and that of your closest partner, children, friends is what matters. Be present and see what this moment holds, the old and the future is not it.  

 

Know your priorities. If you know what your REAL priorities are, you’ll know what to do next, what matters and where you’re going. You may even understand your Life’s Purpose! Writing is a powerful tool to clarify and focus your priorities. Discussions with trusted people also helps. Documenting your life will show you in retrospect what your true priorities are. Get in touch with this, it’s powerful and could be surprising. 

 

Destress by checking off your ”stressbuster” tasks first. Take time to put together a ”stressbuster” list. Get started on the most stressful, most important, most urgent and giterdone. Stress is the biggest threat to your peace of mind, sleep, relationships, general well-being. Take it seriously and tackle it daily so you keep it at bay. Stess will never end but our response to it can change, develop, improve and help us deal with it in a positive way.  

 

People change, just not very much. A wise minister once told me this. He himself was very flawed and dealt with flawed people...The fallacy is thinking that people will change. Change is not easy so don’t expect it from people who you wish would change. Accept them for who they are, love them. Don’t expect something from a person who is not capable of doing it. Look at what they’ve actually done and you’ll know what to expect. If they do more...rejoice in it! 

 

Pretend to be in Retirement for a day, take a Sabbatical Day. Decide to spend a day giving yourself permission to do whatever you really want to do. Do it away from your normal place or go to a hotel or park for the day. Make sure you actually know what you would do and have already developed the interests... See what happens, journal, record it somehow and begin to create of vision of what you actually enjoy doing. Then put together a routine where you do it daily for a few minutes at least. 

 

When you find yourself, commit to never losing “YOU” again. You’ve had moments where you’ve reached a level of understanding, physical, mental, spiritual fitness and you feel like you’re at a good place. Commit to not losing that place. It’s very easy to do ”cheat days”, and lose the progress you’ve made. If you’re an addictive personality type it’s even more precarious. Figure out how to program kpis (key performance indicators) that set off the alarm that you’re returning to old, poor ways. Take the steps when you see the slide and course correct, get back, retain your good place. 

 

Learn Balance. Certain issues: eating, spending need to be addressed differently than: alcohol, pornography, integrity/lying...The latter need to be eliminated the former require a balanced and positive attitude rather than relying on old binging behavior. Take the challenge of balance to bring you to a new place. This ”balance” will begin to affect other parts of your life and bring an easier, more satisfying way to interact with yourself, your demons, others and the circumstances of your life.  

 

Focus on one goal today.  Pick something important to you, pick something that relieves stress for you (finishing taxes, sales report, home repair, hobby skill...) and  do it, check it off the list.  Making progress will increase your sense of satisfaction, enthusiasm, de-stressing, forward movement, personal power, self-confidence...you name it.   

 

Life is precious and fragile...hug your loved ones, send greetings, connect with the important people today.  Sudden health issues remind us of our mortality and the mortality of those we love.  It reminds us of what counts.  Say what you need to say, do something you need to do while you can.  You don’t get many bites of the apple when things happen.  Listen to your intuition...it’s trying to guide you to right action in the moment. 

 

I’M NOT GOING BACK...!!!  So you’ve made progress with:  your weight, health, finances, you’re debt-free, you have a relationship, your life is improving in important ways, your work is better than before, YOU are better than before.  So make the decision that YOU WON’T GO BACK to the negative habits that brought you down before.  You may need to tell yourself of your commitment daily, hourly...often but draw the line in the sand and decide where your guardrails are and respect your limitations that keep you in a healthy space.  ”Don’t go back, you can never go back”... 

 

Protect your positive attitude.  Avoid people who are negative...they will only bring you down.  Participating in their negativity only harms your peace, your attitude, your life...shut it down and don’t participate in it.  This avoidance can be very difficult if the people are relatives/loved ones who need your help and support.  You need to remain positive in order to be helpful to them. 

 

Your challenge brings the necessary step of growth that you’ve been avoiding.  So, you have a setback...the lesson/next step/required fix will bring you to the next level.  Feel the emotion for whatever period you need then...Detach yourself from the emotion and get busy with the fix/next step.  The Universe is working for your good, even if you’ve done stupid things that you regret or wouldn’t want to repeat.  Take your responsibility, take the consequences then get busy with the fix, right thing to do and next step... 

 

Have a major challenge today?  Find out the good in the challenge and make it good.  Unexpected taxes, car accident, spouse issues, kids' issues...  Take Clement Stone’s attitude by declaring ”that’s good” and then find out what’s good about it.  Maybe you need to finally start a business to deal with your income and expenses, maybe you need to change your spending habits and get out of debt forever, maybe you need to change how you relate with your spouse/children and learn how to listen and support them...  Take the challenge as a gift and make it a gift by changing yourself. 

 

If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.  If you have a routine, diet plan, mental plan, work routine, passion routine that works...stick with it.  There’s nothing wrong with trying to improve a good thing BUT if you find you’ve improved it to the point that it no longer works...time to go back to basics and reset. 

 

Get organized and execute.  Pick your important task, figure out what you need to do and put it in an organized plan and execute the part you understand.  The rest will become clear once you do what you know to do.  Get started, work, do the work, and implement what you understand.   

 

Feed your Enthusiasm!  Find what really excites you and feed it.  Get your high from what’s within you rather than external circumstances.  It may take some journaling, reflection, trusted people’s advice, your history...but FIND IT!  Try things on for size and see what works for you...This is a fun game and will accelerate your progress towards what you’re enthusiastic about.   

 

Your daily task is to make people feel better about themselves because they’ve interacted with you.  As Maya Angelo said...”At the end of the day, people won’t remember what you said or did, they will remember how you made them feel.”  Be the person that makes others feel better about themselves...Learn how to do it, practice with your loved ones daily. 

 

Go for it, you can always say no if it’s not right.  Many times we just don’t even try...out of fear, doubt, uncertainty...We talk ourselves out of opportunities before we really know what it could be.  Don’t be afraid to learn from situations and watch things play out.  Most opportunities have room for negotiation.  If it’s not exactly right a customer/employer...may want to make exceptions to have you on board.  Take the risk, you can always say no. 

 

Follow your Curiosity.  What interests you?  What puzzles you?  Take that thing/issue/question and make it into a project that you can produce, follow, read about, learn about, teach, grow from.  Realize that what you need, what you should be doing...is all right in front of you.  Take the time to calm yourself, see it and act upon it.  The journey you take will be an adventure of learning and growth that is unique to you.  Make sure to let it grow in secrecy until you gain the strength to share with safe people who will help you nurture your precious seed. 

 

You can only control what goes out of your mouth and what you put in your mouth...take back control, get rid of the negativity, poison, junk food.  Speaking negative stuff just hurts you.  Eating junk food just hurts you.  STOP.  If your partner, does it...don’t participate or use it as an excuse for doing it. Choose a different path, choose a different perspective, choose to write a different story and live it.  Commit to your new path and don’t waver in your sticking to it.  Sooner or later those around you will realize that you don’t participate, and they’ll stop telling you the stuff...it’s no longer fun.  You may need to go through a period of listening to it...gird up your loins and tough it out.  

 

Choose an important skill you want to learn and dedicate 15 minutes every day to achieving it.  Focus is the only way to make progress.  Enthusiasm is what sustains you in the attainment of your goal.  Try focusing on some task that you want to master and see if your enthusiasm engages, and you find yourself losing time as you work on it.  The engagement of enthusiasm and ”Flow” is what confirms that you actually want to master it...watch for the Flow and Just Do It.   

 

Write your own spiritual book of how you see things.  When you read the sacred texts, you realize that there’s a lot that doesn’t make sense and/or doesn’t apply to today’s world.  Rather than throwing it all out...write your own.  Take what’s meaningful to you today and benefit from it.  Don’t let some inerrant idea keep you from it or needing to buy into all of it.  You’ll find a lot of variety of perspectives in the Bible and every other holy book.  Write your own from a perspective of what makes sense to you today. 

 

Reach into your History to rediscover your passion and do something with it.  We often overthink our desire to ”find our purpose.”  Most likely you’ve had this information from when you were young.  Look back at what excited you in the past and test it to see if you still have the passion and want to move it forward.  Look at what you’ve let go because it wasn’t practical and do it! 

 

Be ready for the Surprise!  Opportunities for growth, a new job, a new relationship, a new account...seem to come out of nowhere.  Learn to live in active anticipation of the ”Surprise” and let it give you hope and increase your faith.  Remember past events, provisions, surprises and choose to dwell there.  It’s a wonderful combination of working like it all depends on you and resting in knowing that it all depends on a higher power...It’s the wonderful enigma, contradiction that is our life.   

 

Worry is a Waste of Time.  Most of the things we’ve worried about are now difficult to remember.  In the moment these things appeared to be:  disaster, tragedy, unthinkable, scary...  Now, with a little distance, you can’t even remember them.  Take a perspective moment and look at your current situation and realize that it’s really just an illusion and you need to focus on solutions rather than worry.  A quick strategy that works – DO SOMETHING YOU NEED TO DO.   

 

You already have the resources and you already know what to do.  Take a moment, imagine a friend has called with a situation/issue similar to yours. What’s your advice? Most likely you have a very well developed answer for them. You may even have a criticism for people like them who: are their own worst enemy, are cheating the system, are lazy, are not seeing what’s in front of them, should just try things... Take your own advice, you know what to do. Even if you don’t act as if you do and try that...what’s the worst that can happen? It doesn’t work and you need to course correct and try something different. At the very least you will have learned something that doesn’t work (ala Thomas Edison and the light bulb). 

 

Negativity is poison...don’t drink it.  It’s incredibly easy to fall into the ”reality negativity” of our present age, world situation, family situation, friendship situation, work situation, children situation, neighbor situation...you name it.  The only person who really suffers from dwelling on this is YOU.  Choose a different thought, a different story, a different life, a different situation.  It’s all false anyways so choose a situation you want rather than what makes you mad/upset/angry/sleepless/worrying... 

 

Make a plan, execute a plan, knock out a goal.  You know what you need to do to accomplish your goals.  Prove it to yourself by actually making your plan, implementing it and successfully achieving a goal that you know is important to you.  This forward movement will bring other advances and you’ll be more motivated than ever before...Give it a try and ”Just Do It!” 

 

“Stop the madness!”  If you find yourself feeding your addictions more than you’re feeding your mouth...take drastic measures and get help!  A good 12 step program, a good friend partner, taking away the temptation, adopting a diet/exercise program, following a program online, going to a faith center of your choosing or a combination of the above.  Get help, take it seriously, make the changes you need to make. 

 

February 2022


Crisis helps clarify the lessons you need to finally learn...  Once you learn what your crisis is revealing you’ll see the break in the clouds and sunshine showing you the way forward.  Lessons avoided will continually return until you address them.  ”People change, just not very much” is true because we all refuse to learn our lessons and move forward.  We all think things will remain the same and get better without our need to make uncomfortable, challenging changes.  This is a complete fallacy!  You need to make changes to get to the next level.  ”What brought you here, will NOT bring you there,” is very true.  Look for the new YOU that needs to come to the scene to make changes and make progress and get you to the ”There” you want to get to.   

 

Believe in your higher good. When you feel yourself in the grip of panic...take a step back, get some perspective, breathe, relax, recoup. Don’t make decisions from a place of panic. Make decisions from a place of confidence, faith, belief in your higher good, trust and sober, wise thinking. Make a realistic evaluation of where you’re at and what your possibilities are.  

 

“Drop the Blade!”  When you’re underwater, have hoarded a bunch of things you don’t use, have never used, you’re living in a fantasy world...  Get rid of what you don’t use, don’t need and will never need.  Start with the small stuff first and gain some steam/success and slowly move to the big stuff you’re really attached to.  Put standards in place to make sure you don’t return to the same behavior and go right back to where you started.  Most likely this is one of your life issues to resolve and you’ve been through this process several times.  Now’s the time to actually make the progress, learn the lesson and get out of the addictive cycle forever...There is Hope! 

 

Crisis and reversals give you a chance to reevaluate your life as critically as possible.  When tough times come, look at how you’re living, look at the advice you give to others and point the flashlight on your own choices, decisions, life.  Take a deep breath and decide what’s important and make the changes you need to make.  You’ll likely find that you’re dealing with the same issues, lessons for years. Maybe it’s finally time to learn your lessons and get to a better place.  If you really have courage, ask your loved one what you need to do...be ready for an honest reply! 

 

Cynicism is easy, finding the positive is the tough and only way.  Difficult moments (loss of a job, financial reversals, various crises...) may require a moment of grief then roll up your sleeves and get busy finding solutions.  Look at ”solution finding” as a job...dedicate daily activities to move it forward.  Expect a medium-term time frame for success...get busy!  Keep positive, shrug off the rejections, see it as a game, keep it away from personal attachment and just keep at it until you find something.  Keep the situation you have until you’re successful.  Take whatever you must in the meantime until you find something that’s better... 

 

Gird up your loins, you’re running to the battle.  There are times when you know you’re going into a fight, storm, difficult situation.  Normally you don’t have warning and you just find yourself in a mess (either your own or someone else’).  In the cases when you know it’s coming and you’re entering a tough one, prepare mentally, spiritually, emotionally.  Plan out your strategy, boundaries, triggers...and take care of yourself so you can take care of others if need be or just weather the storm.  Your sense of self, what you’ve learned and who you are today will all come to your aid.  Stand fast in who you are and the resources you’ve found within yourself and the support people you have...you’ll need it all! 

 

Tell a new story for yourself, your family and those in need.  What is prayer but believing and telling a better story.  This world situation of negativity, conflict, gossip, complaining is the source of our suffering.  Choose to be different.  Choose to tell and believe a better story of your life and how it turns out.  Negativity is no more real, honest...than a Positive outlook.  Look for evidence of the positive story and hold on to it.   

 

Adversity is opportunity to make changes, improvements and start on a new course. The meaning of challenges is often obscured. It’s not to punish but it’s there to mix it up, allow you to make changes and take the next, positive step. It might not be immediately obvious but it’s the Universe’ way of taking you to a new, better place. You’ll recognize it in hindsight, in the meantime, have faith in faith. 

 

When reversals come, it’s time to demonstrate your positive chops and tell a better story!  Reversals, disappointments, stress...will come.  It’s how you react that counts.  Don’t go down the negative road and bring yourself to a lower level.  Believe that it’s an indication that something good is coming.  Decide to believe that something better is on the way and prepare by being positive.   

 

Identify your growth areas, break it down into doable tasks, get focused, get busy, achieve what’s important to you.  Now that you’re in a better place, you’ve had some success, you’re feeling positive...dig deeper and see where the rabbit hole takes you.     

 

Get your mind, spirit, relationships and body in the right place to make the progress you need to make.  Realize that success, growth achievement is much easier if you’re in good physical, spiritual, emotional, mental condition.  Don’t wait until everything is aligned because that would be procrastination and excuse making...as you grow in these areas your accomplishments will come and encourage you as you progress in your journey. 

 

Silence can be the best strategy.  If you’re in a storm, batten down the hatches and wait for the storm to pass.  Your silence may be what’s called for.  Know who you are and what you’re about.  Set boundaries to protect your nature, let the winds blow and don’t participate in something that’s not your fight or issue.  Realize that you always have choices.  You can decide to not participate in the hurt/drama/anger/hatred/negativity of another.  Let them do what they need to do and take the same action for yourself...Take responsibility for your actions, choices and what you tolerate and/or participate in.  It doesn’t have to be a certain way...let it flow through without attaching to your soul.   

 

Habit Stack and use your progress to engage new related goal/task areas. When it rains it pours! If you find yourself succeeding at tasks that important to you...celebrate it! Find other related tasks that you can accomplish using the same skills and begin ”Habit Stacking.” Take the good habits, routines, positive thoughts, results and immediately use that momentum to accomplish more and celebrate! The more you stack, the more easily it rolls down hill and the farther you progress. 

 

Identify your ”stress-buster” tasks and move them to the top of your list so you make time for the non-urgent, really important tasks. It’s easy to procrastinate and let small tasks pile up on you and ruin your peace, sleep and life. Even if it’s a big task that’s stressing you, take it in small bites and plow through it. Making time for long-term, important goal tasks is not easy to do but it will propel you forward towards real achievement if you make time for it and let yourself relax into the task and tap your inner wisdom, guidance and intuition. 

 

Focus, take massive action and course correct. Tony Robbins is right! If you’re trying to accomplish something, learn something new, make progress you need to focus on it, take massive action and course correct until you figure it out and get the result you’re looking for. There are so many good resources available online - YouTube, Google Searches, Kindle/iBooks... There’s really no excuse for not finding what you need. Passion is the key to unlocking the power. If you’re enthusiastic about reaching your goal or learning or accomplishing...you’ll do it. It’s also powerful to watch others who are doing what you want to do...you know it can be done! Get busy! Just Do It!  

 

Let People be who they are, let them follow their path, let them learn their lessons, let them ”do it their way”. We all see through our own eyes and know (or think we know) what works for us. The mistake we all make is to think this applies to other people. Unsolicited advice is really annoying, not helpful and often counterproductive. Make sure you have your boundaries and follow your own path and take full responsibility for yourself. Let others do the same. If they want advice give your perspective but don’t push. Try to support the other person in the way that makes sense to them. Silence, listening, and support is really what they’re looking for. 

 

Your Partner can make you or break you.  Choose a good partner, they have a lot of power over you and where you’ll go, who you’ll become.  Realize, at the same time, that staying with an abusive partner is your decision and you can decide to leave, change the relationship rules, setup boundaries, tend to your own mental health and life journey.  Choose wisely, evaluate honestly, make the changes you need to make because your life is 100% your responsibility regardless of your partner. 

 

Limit the negative onslaught of the media.  Human nature is attracted to suffering, sensationalism, misfortune, conflict...don’t get sucked up into this false, dangerous drama.  There are, of course, real issues of sickness, suffering, sacrifice, injustice that we all encounter.  It’s not necessary to look for more of this just because we have a morbid curiosity about it.  Focus on the good, positive, and beautiful and let it elevate your mind and spirit.  God knows we all need more of this and more people who bring it. 

 

Relieve human suffering?  Look first to your own family and loved ones...they may be hiding their suffering.  Everyday kindness, listening, patience, love may be all you can give and all they really need.  Anonymous generosity and thoughtfulness may be the only way to give.  Look for your path and follow it.  Do what you can, in the best way you know how...you’ll be able to live with that without regret. 

 

Have Faith in Faith.  Believe, Trust, Have Faith...choose to view things through the lenses of Faith and what you see as being the best outcome.  Be childlike and let it go without holding on to the fulfillment of your Faith picture.  Write it down and burn it.  You may be amazed that it will appear in the right timing when you’re ready for it...Be open to being surprised and delighted by this test. 

 

The Universe is in control and it’s not all about you!  There are bigger forces in play and you are a small part of it.  This perspective allows us to relax, destress, wait, watch, rest and have trust in the process.  Your worry, stress, and destructive behavior don’t help and won’t work.  Thanks to my spiritual mentor/accountant for reminding me of this important lesson! 

 

Sometimes the best thing to do is NOTHING AT ALL...Wait it out, the situation will change.  There are times when the best thing to do is nothing...hold tight, wait, see what develops.  Focus on a major passion or life’s goal as a substitute for the current situation.  Once the muddy water is stilled through non action and time the issue will be clear and the answer or action will be obvious.  Trust the Universe and the process. 

 

Create a workspace that allows you to start creating in 2 minutes or less.  You’ll know you have your creative space dialed in if you can get going quickly and easily.  What you really need is to create regularly and get in the zone quickly... Eliminate your excuses and procrastination and...your own obstacles to doing the work.

 

Watch the drama unfold, detach and decide how you want to respond rather than responding in the heat of the moment. When stress, attacks, issues, unexpected setbacks come up (as they will!), step back and decide how you will respond rather than just counter attacking, flying off the handle or getting really angry...  There is a better way.  Use your wisdom to make decisions rather than heated, emotional reactions.  This is a big lesson, you’ll be tested often as you learn it...! 

 

People will change when and if they are ready and not a moment before...same was true for you too!  When we see loved ones doing harmful, toxic things we wish they would stop for their own good.  All you really can do is not allow it under your roof, not participate, speak if asked, allow them to learn their lessons on their timing.  Look to your own harmful/toxic things you allow in your life and change yourself.  You can’t be responsible for other people’s issue resolutions...only your own.  Get busy making the changes in your own life that you know you need to make.  You’re ready for change! 

 

Empty out the bag.  We carry so much of other people’s stuff.  We need to regularly...daily...empty the bad and let go of what’s not ours.  Well-meaning people, family members, partners will regularly share their stuff/drama/critique/helpful suggestions...  This is all good as long as you don’t hold on to it and let it become your drama/burden/issue/stuff.  Let it flow through, let it pass, let it go, empty the bag every day, preferably before bed.   

 

Take the plank out of your own eye before criticizing others.  Self-righteousness is wrong, annoying and counterproductive.  It’s very easy to fall into this trap, especially if you’ve made progress in your own life.  Take all of that energy, indignation, unsolicited advice and look at yourself for what you need to improve.  Work on yourself first, then support others as they ask you for help, advice...most likely they will only need for you to listen.  LISTEN!  Learn to listen better.  If you believe in prayer, pray for them without announcing it to anyone.  Keeping all of this a secret is a real test of your own maturity.   

 

Take care of that one special person. ”Make one person happy” is a great song line but an incredible challenge that brings joy.  Pick an important person in your life and do what you can today to make them happy, feel loved, feel listened to, feel supported, feel encouraged, feel appreciated...  It will bring joy to you and them and you will have learned something important and contributed in a way that only you can!  Be smart and look for what’s important to them...not your version of support.  Rinse and Repeat! 

 

Celebrate your story!  Looking back at your journey with the struggles, joys, heartache, triumph, and current destination can be very empowering.  Often, we don’t think we’ve made much progress because our life and issues are too close for perspective.  Find some part of your journey that has brought results that you enjoy today and remember, write, see the path you took.  Your next steps may be easier to understand with your past perspective.  Your need for faith/trust in this waiting period may also be easier to understand and help you persevere and find something positive to do in the meantime between gigs. 

 


January 2022


Take your Night Message into the Day and act on your messages!  At a certain point it’s interesting that the messages come in the middle of the night.  Take them seriously!  Learn to find a good routine to empty your mind and get back to sleep.  Schedule your day in the morning to act on your message.  The more you act on your intuition, the more they’ll come.  The more you act the faster your progress will be and the more miraculous your journey will become.  It’s always been a miraculous journey...you may not have noticed.  Look for clues and Evidence of Divine Guidance today, expect it, and you’ll find it! 

 

Be secure in uncertainty...the Universe has a plan.  Things can change in an instant.  If you’re in an uncertain place...thrive in the uncertainty...tell a different story of the clues you see and have faith/hope that you will be in a new and better place soon.  A ”Mind-Game"...absolutely.  All of life is a ”Mind-Game" and what you believe comes true for you.  Choose to believe something cool and wait/expect it to happen or something better.  Accept the waiting game as being your time to grow, learn new skills, learn something you’ve been putting off.   

 

Hold your drama far enough away so you can see it for what it is.  We often let our dramas take over our emotions, health, sleep...  Getting perspective is difficult when you take something personally and let it control you.  Try to gain some distance, even if only temporarily, to try and see what’s going on.  If you’re fortunate to have a person of trust nearby, bounce it off them.  Make sure this person is a trustworthy person who loves you and has your best interest in mind.  This distance may only last for a moment, but it will help you deal with your drama.   

 

Pray, Trust, Let Go, Listen, Act...  Call on a higher power, God, your higher self, the Universe...  Why?!  Realize that much of your life is beyond your control and you really don’t know what’s coming next.  Learn to leave your issues to someone/something else.  Empty your mind of what troubles you and let it go.  Take action if there’s something to do and let go if there’s nothing you can do (other than worry and make yourself sick...).  Once you’ve let go, have faith that appropriate action or resolution, or the next step will come at the right time and you’ll have what you need to take the next step/action/inaction. 

 

Feel and follow your instincts. If you feel you need to do something, or not do something, take it seriously. If you’re fortunate enough to have an intuitive partner that you can share with...share it and bounce it off them. It will increase your intimacy and help confirm what you’re feeling and doing. Your journey is enriched as it is shared with people you trust, people who love you and have your best interest in mind. Don’t share it with those who don’t share your best interest or who bring you down... 

 

Your greatest adventure can happen right at home with yourself. You don’t need to go on a trip to have an adventure! Develop projects that really move you and take time to push your project forward...that will be an exciting adventure if you let it! These adventures are the best because you can escape to them every day. Take time every day to escape to your adventure and make progress. 

 

Invent an Adventure! Take a mundane or errand or work experience and decide that it will be an adventure. Take something you want to learn and imagine that it will unlock good things for your goals and future quest...Make it interesting, look for the excitement in your normal life...make it a journey worth traveling, even if it’s your normal life...Being alive is the wonder of this experience. 

 

Take time to listen to your partner, friend, child, parent.  Intimacy is listening, really listening and then appreciating the person in your life.  Spend some time doing that one on one with someone you really care about.  Express your appreciation for them and tell them what they mean to you.  Apologize for your lack of care/mistakes and celebrate that you’ve gotten to a better place together. 

 

Ask for what you need.  Don’t assume your partner knows what you need or understands if you don’t ask.  Reading minds is not an effective relationship tool on either side.  If you expect your partner to read your mind, you’ll be disappointed.  Learn to speak what you need to communicate and have understood.  What do you have to lose? 

 

A ”no” is as important and valuable as a ”yes.”  When you are rejected or don’t get something you applied for...it just means it wasn’t right...keep going, take your higher goals, have faith, be optimistic.  Faith/Trust is what you exercise when you don’t see the next step, when you don’t see anything BUT you know that the Universe is active in bringing the next step to you at the right time. 

 

Friends, Family pass, life is precious, people are precious...remember that when you’re dealing with them today. We often need loss to remind us of how precious and fragile the people are in our lives. We’re hard on them, we’re hard on ourselves and we lose track of the need to be gentle, kind, appreciative, supportive... Life is really about the people, not the things, not the jobs, not the selfish desires...loving people is where it’s at. 

 

De-Stress, it’s all just tasks, problems to be solved, processes to be put in place. Take your stress tasks of the day and look at them dispassionately. Take out the emotion and just figure out the puzzle and think through the issues...use your brain, scheduling, task management and NOT your emotions, fears, procrastination, avoidance. You can do it!!! 

 

Everyone has Issues...  The big lie we believe is that other people have it better, easier, have money, have no problems, no issues, perfect families, perfect homes, perfect futures, perfect retirements...  It simply is NOT so.  Why is it important to realize this??  Because we so often limit ourselves, beat ourselves up, feel bad, feel a victim, feel powerless, feel down about what you can achieve because YOU BELIEVE THIS NONSENSE...  Get over it, realize that everyone has something and get back to taking responsibility for your reaction to your issues and your plans/actions to deal with them effectively and get to another place; a place of self-forgiveness, of self-love, of correct vision and making progress in your own life and being a happy, responsible, generous person. 

 

Feed your mind first thing in the morning with positive, spiritual, motivational nourishment.  Your morning routine will set the tone for the day.  Choose what you focus on early and see the positive result.  Choose to learn from your most important sources, take notes, benefit from the cleaning and shoring up of the mind that it provides.   

 

Take a Snow Day, regroup, focus on something you love and someone you love...  It’s supposed to snow a lot today in the South and everyone is anxious and excited about it.  Monday is MLK holiday and everyone is off...3 day weekend!!  Yay!  We bought boots for our special needs son and snow pants...he’s excited as if it’s Christmas morning...  Take a day like this (or make one up) to make a soup, stew, hot chocolate...read, watch a movie, put on your pajamas or a comfortable outfit, chop some wood, start a fire, snuggle with someone you love, hug your kids, be kind to you dog/cat/pet...  Take a ”mental health day” and forget about everything and focus on the good in your life.  Give yourself permission to minister to and be ministered by the love people in your life. 

 

The Obstacle is the Way...  You’re going to have issues that are limitations that are non-negotiable.  You can fight, complain...or you can find a way to turn it into a positive.  This often takes real creativity but it’s part of the journey we’re all on.  You have sicknesses in the family (or yourself), you’re quarantined, your child requires that you sit with them, you have a physical limitation...find where the water is flowing and turn your boat in that direction.  Develop routines and projects that you can accomplish with a minimum of space...if there ever was a time to do this, it’s now!  At the very least, learn how to meditate and be quiet and accept an unwanted sabbatical.   

 

Everyone is weird...so are you!  The particular-ness of each person is often troubling but it’s reality.  What this means is that you need to stick to your agenda and keep it private.  Others will most likely not understand and may even oppose it/you because they see their own agenda and yours may conflict or be too much for them.  If you find someone you trust and can share with, you’re fortunate, nurture that person and that relationship.  Accept others’ weaknesses...we’re all Special Needs...including you/me! 

 

Get back on the horse and ride!  You’ll need to course correct often so just shake it off and start again.  It’s like flying a plane where you’re constantly course correcting as you move towards your goals.  Weight loss is an up and down fluctuation so keep at it and take the daily challenge of eating well and learning from your successes and setbacks...!!! 

 

Celebrate your progress and document it!  When you’re making progress, write it down and celebrate it.  Your own recognition will spur you on to more success and achievement and goal realization and life purpose progression.  You have everything you need inside yourself to move forward.  You have it all and need to be your own cheerleader.  The inner motivation is the most powerful and important.   

 

Watch Drama and choose to participate or not.  Drama happens at home, work, in the neighborhood, in the country, state, world.  Whether you choose to participate is up to you.  Choose wisely and make sure that you can make a difference.  You may have no choice but to participate...watch for the moment that it’s no longer necessary and let go.  Stress due to drama can be very negative.  Sometimes it’s motivating and helpful like a good deadline that gets you started.  Try to make as many ”good deadlines” as you can and avoid the false ones.   

 

Make Progress, Declutter, Focus, Make More Progress.  Which comes first – preparation then achievement?  Do I runaway because I’m afraid or am I afraid because I’m running away?  Experiment with just doing it and then watch for results and progress and then look for more after preparing...  It’s a mystery similar to Providence-Free Will.  These two sides of the coin are somehow connected...  Try it and see.  The message is clear, don’t wait until you’re ready to do something you care about.  Do whatever you can to prepare and focus to make your efforts effective.  Do both! 

 

Listen, really listen.  It’s so difficult to really listen to someone and focus attention on them and bathe them in your respect.  If you do, they’ll notice and feel refreshed by your attention, listening, respect and love.  Giving advice is really irritating in most cases and telling stories about yourself is also irritating...let it go! 

 

Focus on making people feel good about themselves. How you make people feel will be what they remember most about you. It’s so easy to be negative. Find a way to be positive with people as often as you can. Catch them doing something good and make note of it to them, peers, bosses, family members... It will make a difference for them and for you. Learn to appreciate people. 

 

Feed your mind daily with what you consider spiritual.  Make your first input be spiritual and write what’s on your mind and in your heart.  Learn to listen, learn to document and benefit from the early wisdom that’s available every day.  You’ll benefit from it all day long and far into the future.  Pass this wisdom on to your friends, kids, family...if they ask. 

 

Expect big things!  Decide to write a story that contains ”big things” however you define them for you and your family.  Expect it, believe in it, write it out, let it go and watch it happen.  Be ready for the exciting twists and turns and accompany a big vision and go with the flow, turn your boats downstream and watch where the current of your life/spirit/destiny/purpose takes you.  Be thankful for it.  There are no mistakes only stepping stones and learning experiences...Go for it!  Just do it! 

 

Do your routine even if you have deadlines, stress and overdue tasks.  You really need your routine to ground you, to move you forward and maintain your focus on the important things.  Don’t let it slide!  Turn off the world and do it.  You’ll be more prepared to do great work if you keep your routine. 

 

Keep picking yourself up.  So you made a commitment and then blew it...welcome to a very large club.  Try to learn from the mistake and pick yourself up and improve, change, try something new and start over again.  Breaking through habits, your compulsions, your addictions, other people’s influence, your excuses...is a business that requires patience, steadfastness, commitment, passion... just begin again.  Every day is a new beginning, every moment is a new beginning.  Start over, do something new, you can change at any moment...try it!  Don’t give up, just begin again, try something different, new or just repeat what should work.   

 

Eliminate the negative shows.  We delight and are intrigued by the drama of other people’s misfortune.  Learn to lose this obsession by eliminating the ”true crime” stories of murder, deception, and the horrible that is so intriguing.  Substitute the ugly with the beautiful.  Read a book, meditate, watch an uplifting show, study a biography, learn a new instrument, memorize a poem.... 

 

Work with people you like. Life is short and it’s easy to make compromises because you think you must. Make sure you work with people you like and who feed you on your journey. Work isn’t suffering, it’s part of your larger plan. Look for situations and people that feed you and move you forward in your purpose for being on the planet.  

 

New Year, new thoughts, new goals, new life, create your life!!! Happy New Year and welcome to an important chapter of growth, abundance, fun, creativity, love, health, wealth, music, friends... Write your life without fear and imagine the best you possibly can and then focus on that. Let the thoughts slide and choose to be entertained by them and not entertain them.  


Happy New Year 2022! 

 

Pick a day to update your practice.  The first of the year is a great time to reflect on your practice and update it with new, positive things to try.  Make sure to keep what works, reflect on your progress.  If you’re fortunate to have maintained a practice for a long time, it will be easier to update and improve for the next step.  Remember, what got you here will not get you to your next step...find that update to your practice that gets you to the next step...it’s right in front of you. 




December 2021


 

If you find something that works...stick with it.  Sometimes the desire for growth, change and flexibility causes us to look for the next best thing when it could be what you’re doing right now.  If it’s working, don’t fix it but keep with it and see where it will lead. 

 

Rest in the midst of change, whirlwind, other people’s drama and your inner turbulence.  Quieting your mind and spirit in the midst of change is not easy.  There’s a reason for the Eye of the Hurricane...it’s nature’s example of how we can live if we make it a priority.   Just notice the noise and let it roll.  Don’t ”entertain your thoughts”, be entertained by your thoughts.  Once you realize the fantasy of the whole affair, it will become clearer for you.   

 

Be ”comfortable in your own skin.”  Cultivate the joy/serenity of being comfortable with who you are and not concerned about being someone you’re not.  Try applying for a job you don’t care about and interview by presenting the ”real” you.  Do things and be with people who accept the real you and let it all hang out.  The best gift you can give the world, your partner, your family, your relatives, your colleagues, your customers, your employers, your employees...is YOU.  Integrity is really about being you in all of your life situations.   

 

Let go of old wrongs...holding on only hurts you!  You’ve got people and situations that have done you wrong...we all do.  Decide to cut the cord on those impediments that only weigh you down.  Make a decision to forgive all of this garbage for your own good!!! 

 

Make Room for the New! Time to get rid of the clutter, what’s not being used, what’s not needed and only taking up space...give it away, drop the Blade. You’ll need more room for the New Year, New Period, New Job, New Relationship, because it will be a big, abundant, exciting moment/period/year. 

 

The Days are lengthening, Spring is coming, the Winter will pass... I love Winter Solstice because it’s the promise of new life and provides strength for the Winter. The ups and downs of life and the seasons are like our thoughts...they come and go. Enjoy the ride, the highs and the lows. You’re learning, experiencing, growing and moving forward...no matter what it seems. 

 

Be there to lighten the load for the most important person in your life...make it a point...especially when they need it most. ”Make one person happy...” is a great song and a great thing to achieve. If you’re able to be there when that person needs you most and give them the support they need in the way they want...you’ve really done it.  

 

Accept Gifts Graciously. If you’re a giver, you’re probably not a good receiver. Let your loved ones give to you and be generous with them...take the moment to give and enjoy it, receive and enjoy it. Make this a regular activity! The new seasons, holidays, recovering from a sickness, a job success, a relationship success, a birthday...take them all as reasons to give, receive and be happy. 

 

Speak your truth with respect but speak it when you need to.  Employers, friends, partners, family all feel entitled to say their peace/piece every now and then.  When appropriate, say yours!  Say it with respect and not in anger but say it.  It doesn’t help anyone to let people walk over you, or worse, wipe their dirty boots on you.   

 

Listen to your body!  It’s trying to take care of you and put you in a good place.  The mind-body connection is mysterious and sometimes it comes in strong to divert the path to something better.  If you’re tired, rest, if you’re sick, rest, if you’re stressed, rest.  Take time for quiet, silence, rest, sleep...  Let the active mind do it’s thing, watch it, be entertained by it but don’t entertain it! 

 

Your Life can change in a Day...  Some events are life changing and you seldom realize it until later.  Sometimes it’s MUCH later.  Appreciate where you are today...you’re in the perfect spot even though you can always think of improvements.  Let it sink in and look forward to the life changing events the Universe has for you today...Relax and let it happen! 

 

The Universe is moving.  You’re always increasing or decreasing.  There is no static moment.  Try to become aware of the movement of the Universe today.  It’s not easy to see and it’s often deceptive...  You believe things are moving in a certain direction and they/you/It pivots.  Remain flexible, keep your cool, watch it unfold with patience and grace...The Change is a comin’, The Times They are a Changin’!! 

 

It’s good to have long term friends who know you well and love you.  Be that same person for your group of peeps.  They need it too!  Enjoy the growth and development of your long term friends, relatives, partner, children.  We’re all careening on a spinning ball towards something...we know not what!  Enjoy the ride! 

 

Early to Bed, Early to Rise.  It really is refreshing to get up early and start the day with a bang.  The early energy is something special.  I feel energized, hopeful and positive about today and what’s coming.  This will be a Christmas to celebrate...the beginning of our retirement plan and abundance continuation! 

 

Have Faith in Faith.  This phrase irritated me for a long time.  It seemed so wishy-washy and non descript.  But with age and time I find myself believing without necessarily knowing why or what in some cases.  I find my life to be a faith walk and I’m enjoying it more and more as I let go to it and say yes to what the Universe brings me.   

 

As the seasons change so will the seasons of your life.  If you’re in a productive mode – get busy!  If you’re in a resting/reflective mode – give yourself the space to do that...See where your life and the Universe is leading you and follow it.  You’ll know by your feelings and your intuition...develop it, folllow it, trust it... your next step is coming but you need to finish this one. 

 

The Wonder of Not Knowing.  You lost your job, you have an important job interview, you have a business trip, you have a party with neighbors...you really don’t know what will happen or how it will go...  BE EXCITED AND WATCH WHAT HAPPENS...the Universe has exciting things for you to do, experience and enjoy.  Watch it happen, get engaged, follow your inner knowing and LET GO...LET IT HAPPEN.  Then, watch what happens and be thankful for it. 

 

What the world needs now, is Love – Sweet – Love.  A Great song and a great truth.  The love and connection with others is what brings joy and survival to our lives.  The lack of it is what we’re compensating for and often getting ourselves in trouble.   

 

We’re all just older versions of our younger selves...  It’s amazing how little we change over time.  What interested us as kids, high school students, young adults still is interesting today.  When you connect with old friends you find the same things floating around in conversation, and thoughts.  It’s also interesting to see how we grow and develop these interests over time.  Life is an experience and growth...share that with someone who knew you when... 

 

Make Progress towards your key goals today.  You know what you need to do, what’s most important and that you need to get busy.  Shed the procrastination, excuses and laziness...Just Do It!  Just Do It Today! 

 

Follow your own standards, others don’t count.  Your measure of yourself should be only based on you.  It’s good to have mentors, examples of achievement but your own journey is the most important.  The worst place to be is chasing someone else’ version of success, wealth, achievement and losing your own.   

 

“All the World’s a Stage”...we’re all just really actors in a play.  Let this sink in.  We take ourselves, our circumstances, other people, other people’s dramas, our dramas, our tragedies, our history, our future...so seriously.  We’re acting, playing a part.  If you don’t like what you’re living, pick a different role, a different part and play it.  Stop taking yourself, your drama, your work & work drama...so very seriously.  Yes, there are real things, real challenges but they are not nearly as many as you may think.  Step back and see the play, make decisions once you’ve understood this.  It may take a very long time before this makes sense...  Remember it when your moment comes and you’re ready for it. 

 

Be o.k. with doing one thing well with attention, make sure it captures your enthusiasm and dig deep.  Multi-tasking is practically a virtue these days, IT’S NOT!  Try doing one thing you’ve been putting off or really want to master...make serious progress on ONE THING and see how you feel and how you propel yourself forward.   

 

Focus on your real interest and real talent.  It’s easy to get caught up in your head and imagine the cool things you can do with technology and then not do it.  Are you a player?  play.  Are you a technology geek...be that.   

 

Find a faith community.  Find a place to talk about faith and your journey.  It does NOT have to be a church or institution.  It very well will be your partner, neighbors, family, friends...  But find it and nurture it and be nurtured by it.  If it becomes a negative, let it go and find a better one...but find one! 

 

Get something done today in one area.  Focus is the key to accomplishing anything.  The difficulty with modern life is that we have so much at our fingertips.  Ignore it all, take one thing and learn it...You know what that one thing is...go giterdone! 

 

Find strength, fun from your peer group.  If you’re fortunate enough to have a good peer group, friends, neighbors, relatives, family, colleagues, take comfort, strength and enjoyment from the people that are in your life.   

 

Follow what ignites your passion.  What do you want to do with your life?  Look at what gets you enthused, excited, passionate...Do that!  If what you do is not a “passion igniter” do something else.  Your time is your life and don’t waste either. 

 

Living with uncertainty.  You’ve put yourself out there, people are interested, you’re receiving feedback, you don’t know what will stick, you don’t know how it will all turn out...  It’s a reminder that YOU’RE NOT IN CONTROL!  The Universe has a plan and a journey for you.  It may not be what you think it will be.  There are no failures or mistakes, only lessons, experiences and signs that lead you to the next step.  Sit back and watch where it goes!  This is an important moment to let sink in.  Get quiet and let it happen.  You’ll know what to do, say, respond, decide correctly at the perfect moment.  You’ll receive the guidance you need at the right moment.  You can’t hurry it, it will happen at the right time.  You may receive important signs and information from unexpected places and people...that’s the fun of it!  Relax!  It’s always been this way behind the scenes. 

 

Break it down to small steps and put one foot in front of the other.  It’s easy to get stuck and stop your progress.  Remember the fundamentals and start from the beginning to get restarted and let the passion take control and guide you.  Turn off all of your distractions and see what you come up with.   

 

Figure out what works for you in this period of your life.  It’s important that you take responsibility for your life and figure out how to manage YOU for optimal results.  Diet, exercise, positive focus on important tasks, celebration of accomplishment...It’s your job to figure out YOU...don’t expect someone else and/or your environment to do this for you...take control and responsibility for your life and your own growth/training.  GROW UP!!!   

 

Focus on the doing (writing, playing, publishing, painting...) rather than the tinkering-spending-focusing on secondary/related tasks.  If you think that doing tasks that are related to your goal is doing your goal...you’re deluding yourself.  It’s a common trap but it’s a trap and will keep you frustrated and not doing your real “thing”.  Do the real thing first and the rest later, if at all.  Don’t be afraid to do the work and publish it regardless of whether you think it’s good enough or not.  Just do it! 

 

Do a mini “Hiit” for your major goal today.  Spend a concentrated hour really focusing on a major goal activity today.  Get jazzed by the progress and see that you can do it!  Overwhelm and lack of focus are major issues for many creatives... start small and do something important today!  You’ll feel empowered and make more progress tomorrow.   

 

It’s easy to jump into the negative/gossip/complaining bag...  It’s important to keep away from this “bag”.  Simple conversation can quickly and easily degenerate into gossiping, complaining, negativity...in an effort to connect with people.  It’s a cheap fix.  Look for better ways to connect, more positive, focus on the good and bringing out the good in people.   

 

Start a mini project and focus on actually doing the work and making progress for the next 30 days.  If it’s the Christmas season...play, write, read, create using the Christmas resources or Hanukkah, Kwanza, Winter Solstice or anything else that’s meaning for you in this season.  The seasonaility will make it meaningful and bring you to places you haven’t been and need to go...people will also connect with you in a new way...publish it!! 

 


November 2021



Change it up, take a break from your routine and try something new!  It’s good and important to have routines.  It’s also good to periodically take a break from them and see how you feel.  See if you need to make changes to your routine and add something or subtract something.  Try a new discipline for 30 days and see how it fits.   

 

Allow yourself time to celebrate! Allow downtime.  Our fast paced, busy, full life often keeps us from letting go and being down.  Take the time off, read, write, play, enjoy a walk and time with family.  You deserve it! 

 

Find jobs, activities, people, causes that move you and give you enthusiasm.  It’s easy to settle for what you think you must do rather than what you want to do.  Look for a new job when you have a job and don’t need it...you may find something you’re really excited about with people you enjoy.  If a person/family is suffering and it touches you...give to them, see how your willingness to help will be important to someone and good for you.  If you have people you like...give them more attention and find a way to spend time with them.   

 

Give yourself permission to create and do the work of your passion.  It’s not easy to let yourself do your passion work.  We feel obligated to do things in many ways and use that obligation as a passion avoider.  This can go for a lot of things from sex to creating to exercising...you know your priorities by what you actually do.  Give yourself a chance to prove your passion to yourself.  Don’t be afraid of it...let it happen and capture your attention, joy, excitement, thrill of being alive for a purpose! 

 

Unsolicited advice is unwanted and irritating advice...let it go!  If someone is not asking for your advice don’t volunteer it.  Think of the unsolicited advice you received that made you feel bad, that you weren’t ready for, that was really just being mean.  Don’t do that to someone else.  In many cases, even if they ask for it, they don’t want it.  Just be supportive, non judgemental and realize that people learn their lessons when they’re ready for it.  Don’t participate in their negativity either, it will burn you rather than support them... 

 

Remember why you get excited about your passion (guitar playing...).Often we get wrapped up in websites, contacting fans, customers... and forget to do the things that we’re passionate about.  Same with relationships...why did you fall for that person!  Take time to reignite, reconnect and look back as well as forward to the things that excite you and activate your enthusiasm. 

 

Negative gossip needs to go.  Sometimes you think you’re being supportive of someone by participating, initiating or just plain spewing negative gossip and opinions about people.  This toxicity is not helpful, not supportive and burns your soul and the soul of who’s listening.  Let it go!  Do not participate, be silent and let the moment pass.  The fire will die down if the gas is not put on it.   

 

The time you waste for them, makes a friend a friend.  Taking time out to speak/listen with a friend, wife, son, daughter, mother, father, brother, sister is showing love.  Listening to them tell their story is gold.  Find a way to do this.  If someone is opening up...take the time to listen and encourage the storyteller.   

 

A way through will become clear, let the muddy water settle.  Is the next step unclear?  Rest, relax, calm your mind, let the dust settle...the way forward will become clear in silence, peace, calm and in an empty mind.  Learn to let your thoughts settle and the way will become clear.   

 

Update your morning routine.  Make sure that you include your personal priority in your morning routine.  Even if it’s a short period of time you dedicate to it...DO IT!  It’s often very easy to let go of your most important and enjoyable priorities because the work/personal growth issues take first place... Make sure your “fun” routine is included, it will inspire you, give you motivation and energy.  This extra flavor will transform your routine. 

 

Intimacy Needs are important!  In all of our striving to improve, succeed, build wealth, raise kids, pay bills, deal with work stress...Don’t forget that the most important thing is to build a LIFE!  Life priorities are different:  Love – relationships – Health – body/minds/spirit/sexual life.  I separate sexual life because it’s surprisingly easy to neglect your sex life...  DON’T.  When you take it seriously, you’ll know why.  

 

There are no accidents, just Universe messages, direction, course correction, exciting opportunities, moments for reflection, growth.  Sometimes/oftimes it feels like we’re in a bumper car ride...running into obstacles, other people, guard rails, unexpected bumps...it’s all there for you to experience and move on to better things.  Sometimes a better thing is achieved from taking a step back (in pay, in fortunes, in relationships, tragedies, difficulties...).  Take it all as scenery on your journey and move forward...the next step will come up sooner and more clearly than you can imagine. 

 

The Universe is in control and has a plan for you, contributions for you to make, and lessons for you to learn.  Many times it feels like we’re in a bumper car ride...banging into people, rails and going in circles.  This is just an impression, there’s something much bigger going on that you cannot see.  Trust that there’s a plan and follow the light you have until the next sign becomes clear.  Even misunderstandings, bad people, tough situations... can lead us to the proper place, there are no accidents or “failures.” 

 

The Universe brings obstacles and challenges to bring new opportunities for growth and abundance.  When you experience resistance, look for the window that’s opening for you and follow your bliss.  Just because a company or person doesn’t want to help or support you is not a reason for anger, just look for the opening that is coming and start preparing.  

 

Decide to live at a higher level.  We often get caught up in the mire of daily struggles and worldwide ugliness.  I’m sure that’s all true but it’s a decision to keep your head there or seek a higher level of living.  Choose the higher level.  If there is anything beautiful, kind, righteous, wise, wonderful...think on those things and see what it brings to you.   

 

Find your power through your ability to make significant change in your life.  By discovering how to make changes you gain confidence that you can learn anything you need or want to and you can change your world from inside you rather than being under the slavery of external situations and people. 

 

Stay on the Wagon!  Any big change will bring challenges to stop and backslide...find a way to avoid this at all costs.  The longer you keep at it, the better the results.  Write down your progress, ask for support and move forward! 

 

Focus on making the people around you feel good about themselves today.  No matter where you are and who you’re with, take time to notice, listen, compliment and appreciate the people around you.  They need it, you need to give it, the world needs more people who seek to do it.  Now get busy. 

 

Where/When it rains, it pours...  When you’re feeling lucky, do the difficult things you’re avoiding because you’ll be successful.  If something is working...do more of it!  Get momentum going in your life and double down on it.  Take note of your own inner knowing and learn from yourself and your own experience.  There were and are things that you do that work for you.  Take it seriously and follow it down the rabbit hole...it may lead you to great things. 

 

Enjoy the moment and the opportunities and people in your life...the current moment is the gift. We’re always looking forward to more, better, goals, the paycheck, graduating, completing...  This “forward looking” keeps us in a wanting state.  We need to stop regularly to realize that we already are here.  Life circulates on itself...you’ll always find yourself at the same place until you realize that its perfect and whole, just like you. 

 

Expect the unexpected.  So much of our life is unplanned, comes by “accident” and changes everything like a game of chess that is bummed by your 3 year old and you reset.  Let’s see what the Universe has in mind today.   

 

Figure out your best work rhythm and make sure your priorities are done during that window.  We all have times that we are most productive.  You’re either a morning or an evening person most likely.  You may have family issues and rhythms that are set.  Use your knowledge of this and try putting your most important project/priority first and see what you get done.  Cut out the procrastination times, TV watching...and crowd it out with high priority/joyful productivity.  See where it goes! 

 

Learn your program slowly and deeply, don’t take shortcuts.  Pick your most important skill and learn it top to bottom, slowly all the way.  This will change everything for you in the long, short and medium term.  It’s tedious but really important.  There are more resources now with YouTube than ever.  Don’t forget to actually read the manual, front to back.   

 

Let the Night be for sleep and not for stewing over issues that can’t be resolved at night.  The older we get and the more stressful our job is, the more difficult it is to sleep without worrying.   

 

Do what you do in secret – tell no one.  There is power in silence, in making progress in secret, in allowing people to notice your transformation rather than proclaiming it.  It’s a humility issue, it’s a “don’t cast your pearls before swine” issue, it’s a “don’t jinx it” issue...pick your issue but try silence and a simple answer when you’re asked about it.  Realize that others may be curious but not ready for the steps you took to accomplish your transformation.  People who understand will be drawn to you...let is unfold and don’t preach...nothing worse than unsolicited advice from a successful person (whatever that means!).   

 

Deepen your knowledge of one thing today.  We all have too many options and can easily lose focus.  Choose something interesting/important/urgent/long-term and get deeper into it today.  Eventually you’ll be able to do important things with that tool and grow from learning it. 

 

Spending-Investment-Debt are major life issues that can affect how you make choices.  Money, and life investment of time have a major impact on how our lives play out.  If you put yourself under the gun by overextending yourself it affects your freedom to follow your path.  Make a plan to get out from under the debt and invest your time in what really matters.  Invest your time today in something that matters...get into practice now! 

 

Integrity, the Final Frontier...  The final goal really is having Integrity, being who you are, addressing Life as it comes and seeing where your Deeper Self/Universe is leading you to experience and grow.  This is the bigger picture.  What is Integrity...that’s the definition point that grows with awareness.  Initially it may be just not lying/cheating/stealing.  Then it goes much deeper.  This is the bigger well to draw from.  The Universe is bringing you to this point...look in it, it’s what you’ve been avoiding and where you want to be at the same time.  Surrender is there, peace is there, real personhood is there. 

 

Focus on ”Stressbuster” activities that will free up your mind.  ”Eat the Frog” first and your day will work better for you.  Prioritization and focus are super important for the flighty among us! 

 

Roll with the changes!  Things develop, ideas and directions change...go with the flow and watch the Universe develop opportunities for growth without your contribution...Just do it and see where it all takes you! 

 

Go with the flow, point your boat downstream.  The universe wants you to succeed and will double the efforts when you jump in and commit.  The effortlessness is key.  You’ll still have many issues to address in areas of your life but you’ll have the confidence that you can do it, because you can! 



October 2021


Sometimes Silence is the best tact to take.  You can’t let momentary anger or frustration make you lash out at someone...chill, let it pass.  You’ll regret an angry comment or response to someone.  If you just stay silent, you’ll see the foolishness of the person, their comment and an angry response from you.  There’s no winning in these situations...let it pass and you win. 

 

Watch for clues, synchronicities, and evidence that the Universe is moving you forward.  You’ll have serendipities, divine appointments with people who will show you the way, confirm your path, give you the next piece of the puzzle.  You’ll also do the same for them in their journey.  Look for it,  go with it, put yourself in the flow and point your boat downstream! 

 

Break your tasks into smaller units so you can get started.  Sometimes the tasks are just too big or there’s too much resistance.  Fool yourself and make it a very small task.  You’ll get started and find that even the hard tasks are not that bad...God forbid you may even enjoy it! 

 

Stick to your guns.  It’s not easy to take a different path and not succumb to peer pressure...Don’t do it!  Believe in yourself and what you’re doing.  Do it for yourself not for others. 

 

Do your show, whatever it is.  Do what gives you the juice that enlivens your life.  Don’t worry about the negative beliefs, as you work you’ll gain the necessary confidence, guidance and ability to success/move forward. 

 

Kindness and Patience apply in your interactions with others AND WITH YOURSELF!  It’s easy to beat yourself up as you make ”three steps forward and two steps back”...  You need to pick yourself up and hit it again and pick away at your mountain.  Overcoming addictions, compulsions, laziness... is not a simple task.  You can do it, keep at it, the stakes are high, the reward is great. 

 

Your Life Can Change on a Dime!  Be open to new opportunities and unexpected events.  A new job, relationship, growth opportunity could come out of nowhere and things change for the better in an instant.  Thinking that your life will never change keeps you in that state.  Be open for the new and be ready when it happens...Just do it! 

 

Address Your Demons and liberate yourself, start today.  If you’re like me, you know your issues.  They’ve been with you for a long time.  Make today, the day that you eliminate at least one of them.  Pick the low hanging fruit or the one that will mean the most and act as if you don’t have it today.  Change can happen in a moment if you’re ready.  Believe that you’re ready and when you make the change you’ll feel the power of it and want to continue...Give it a shot today.  Figure out what a perfect day would be and get started.   

 

If you experience resistance, take a step back, evaluate if it requires tenacity or letting go and move on.  Sometimes we spend time and effort on things that need to be left alone until they either make more sense or are understood as a waste of time.  This is especially true of technology where there are OS incompatibilities, bugs...don’t get caught up in trying to ”Push Rope,” let it go and recircle back when the tech has caught up with you. 

 

Take a gig, make it into a project, learn something, move forward, make progress.  If you have a gig, no matter how small, make it into something for yourself.  By doing so you propel yourself forward, you make something memorable for others and you next gig will be better.  The whole point is to improve, do the work, touch people and move your larger project forward.  Don’t miss an opportunity to make the magic happen...at any/every level. 

 

A Short Memory is Essential!  If you’re in a relationship of any kind a short memory helps you forget the things that happen and irritate you.  They will come...forget them and move on.  A short memory also helps you to not rest on your laurels.  You’ve made progress, celebrated, feel good...that’s good.  Now move on to the next goal, level, project and don’t stop! 

 

Make the Progress, Celebrate the Progress, Make adjustments.  Sometimes you think your path leads you one way and then you find something else works better...No worries, make the adjustment.  You may return to what you’re working with at a later time when you’re ready and it makes sense to you. 

 

Learn what you have before buying more.  It’s easy to always look at the new shiny object when you haven’t mastered the tools you have in front of you.  Slow down, learn your tools and your craft and if you can’t accomplish your goals with your tools, get it and program in the learning curve.  Buying something is not mastering it or accomplishing anything...beware! 

 

Focus, Focus, Focus... Pick two things that you need to learn to accelerate your progress towards goals that are important to you.  Make progress...life keeps rolling on and if you don’t do it, you may never get it out of your head and into reality.   

 

Appreciate your journey and the incredible people you meet, have met and will meet.  Like attracts like and your life will mirror your life.  If you want to meet interesting, good people, seek to be interesting and good yourself.  The people and opportunities will show up! 

 

Publish, publish, publish...  Don’t wait for perfection, do the best you can and get it out there.  You’ll improve as you do it.  There are so many ways to publish that it’s more available than ever:  Youtube, websites, soundcloud, Bandcamp...  Just Do it! 

 

Be Patient!  Improvement comes in increments.  So you’re doing the work and you’ve learned something new and you look at the end result and you think ”It Sucks”...  That’s ok!  Publish it anyways, you can improve and revise as you get better.  The prison of perfection keeps you from publishing, expressing, making progress, being peaceful...Let it go and just keep doing the work and publishing the work.  As a drummer friend once said, ”I was horrible for so long, I just had to get better...”  And he did! 

 

Figure your top 3 goals for the month and do them in priority.  It’s incredibly easy to lose focus and follow the shiny, new object of interest.  You know what you want and need to do this month...put it on a written list and do the most important thing first.  You’ll accomplish more and be able to see and celebrate your progress. 

 

Look for Divine connections with the people you meet.  The people you run into for work, in an Uber, at the airport, at the mall, at a store can and do bring messages you need to know!  These Divine connections can be from very unexpected people/sources...be open to learning from the people you’re in contact with...it could be an Angel is disguise! 

 

Don’t let the ”Big Picture” prevent you from taking the small steps forward today.  There’s a lot of talk about ”Thinking Big” and ”Seeing the Big Picture”.  I’m all for it BUT sometimes you’re so far from where you want to be that it’s demotivating.  Make sure to remember to do the small stuff today that will get you there and make the progress, do the tutorials, do the work...A strong foundation will accelerate your growth as you go. 

 

Be Thankful for the difficult people that make your life good.  So often we gripe about a person or persons in our life that make things difficult.  Often that very person is responsible for your level of abundance, opportunity, good things and you don’t see it or refuse to see it.  Step back, take a breath and be thankful for those people you butt heads with.  Try to see how they are making the good things in your life possible. 

 

People are slaves to whatever has mastered them.  What has mastered you?  Alcohol, Drugs Overspending, Porn, Overeating, Negativity, Gossip, Self-Pity...or worse?!?  You know your addictive issues well and may feel powerless to deal with it.  There is hope! 

 

Drop the Blade...  There are times when you just need to cut your losses, drop the blade, you’ve lost what you’ve lost...time to turn the page.  MOVE ON!!!  Your next step will not come alive in many cases until you’ve hoisted the excess baggage off the boat so you can right size your life and move on in a new direction.  Sorry for all of the cliche's but it’s so true.  GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE and don’t give your power to the people/situations that have hurt you. 

 

One Step Leads to the next.  As you make your progress and learn one crucial skill at a time, the next important skill and step will become obvious.  Take it!  Decide to go deep, learn something new from the very beginning and master it.   

 

Learn Your Craft to Do Your Original Projects.  It’s great to learn doing Covers, copying the masters, learning your craft, doing demos from Youtube Videos...BUT, the real purpose is to get YOUR stuff out there.  It’s also important to publish it for others.  So, learn a technique, trick, hack...then use it ASAP on your own creation and see where it leads you. 

 

Physical pleasure is important in relationships.  It’s easy to ignore your physical needs in a relationship.  It’s often complicated and difficult to navigate.  Don’t let your excuses take you out of the game.  Risk it and see if you can figure it out with your partner. 

 

Breaking Barriers/Self-Imposed limitations leads you to growth and next steps.  Break a barrier and you gain confidence that you can move forward in other areas of your life that you found impossible.  Celebrate your progress and look to where it is leading you.  Your next step will be obvious and you’ll break another barrier on your way to growth and self-actualization.  You’ll soon discover that your limitations are all self-imposed...This realization is freedom and joy. 

 

Make Progress, break a barrier, learn a new skill, do something you’re putting off.  You have a list of things that you know are barriers keeping you back, or skills you know are valuable or things you’re just avoiding...Do them and feel the positive force of moving past your own limitations.  You’ll soon see all limitations as internal and realize that “YOU CAN DO IT!” (Because you have!). 

 

The Universe’ provision usually only comes at the perfect time when you need it...not before.  Are your fretting about a lack you feel that is coming??  Wait in peace and be patient, the Universe will provide “just in time” and not a moment before you and the situation are ready.  This can be frustrating but it’s how it is.  This does not preclude preparation but realize that the actual event will occur at the proper time, when everything is ready.   

 

Prepare yourself for the opportunity/connection that brings it all together for you.  Your next step in life wants you as much as you want it.  So, be prepared and present yourself, your work, your areas of collaboration so when that connection/person/opportunity comes to you, you’re ready.  Your life is making space for this growth and pruning the things that are non-essential.  Focus on the essential and put your “set” together for the moment when it comes...it’s coming!  Sooner than you think! 

 

Giving is only meaningful if it makes sense to the receiver.  We often give to others selfishly...We do things for others that we value.  Often what we value is not of value to your partner, child, friend, colleague.  It takes real effort to understand what the “other” wants and needs so you can give them something they value.  This misunderstanding is behind the saying:  “No good deed goes unpunished.”  The “Good Deed” is miscalculated if not researched well first to make sure you’re on the right track. 

 

Let go of Negativity.  It’s so easy to let the negativity of the world, your family drama, friend drama, work drama seep into your mind and life.  It seems to be human nature to absorb and continue the negativity but it’s not productive and will only bring harm to you and your spirit.  Let it go and focus on what matters and the positive and the good.   

 


September 2021


Kindness and Consideration go a long way in any relationship.  The minimum of kindness and consideration will help your partner, friend, relative, colleague, neighbor, acquaintance feel better about themselves and about your care for them...Make a commitment to understand what that means for the person and how you can deliver it.  Sometimes listening, or a smile is all it takes.  The closer the person is to you the more important it is and the more complicated it can be.  Focus on what’s important to them and not your own definition of care and support.  It’s not easy but worth the effort. 

 

Face the Day and Empty the Mind.  We spend so much time filling our mind that it leaves little room for what Life has for us in the Day.  Plan, prepare and then just let go and see what happens, what new things and unexpected things come up and run with it.  Maybe it’s a friend who appears out of nowhere and texts you for a Facetime...take it and see what their message is for you.  Take these surprises seriously and see where it leads you and them!  You have a message for them too! 

 

Life will test you and form you...let it.  You will not escape the challenges of Life but you can choose to see these tests as opportunities to grow, triumph and move forward.  Look to who you want to be and make progress towards that person today.  The ultimate goal is to love, be loved and help others grow in their struggles as Life forms them as well. 

 

Focus on your performance set...  Use your opportunities to prepare your set/gig and get motivated to make real progress.  Develop what you need to make the gig happen and let it form your focus for the near term.  Deadlines and specific tasks are not a distraction but could be an important new focus.  Incorporate what you’re working on as part of it and see how it integrates and makes for something cool!  This motivation/juice is what feeds your soul.   

 

You will receive the opportunity to learn your lessons until you learn them.  If you find yourself experiencing the same difficulties time after time...realize that you will until you learn the lesson.  Think of what you’d say to another person who asks you for advice about the same challenge...follow your own advice...you know what you need to do, just do it! 

 

Jacob always meets Laban.  Life always brings you a “taste of your own medicine.”  If you’re rude or short, you’ll meet someone who is ruder and shorter than you are so you experience it.  If you’re a perfectionist and can’t stand things out of place or things not going your way...you’ll meet that person and have an experience of it.  If you’ve hurt people in a certain way, you’ll meet someone who hurts you.  Life is about learning and improving (hopefully!!).  Learn from your teachers and make changes.  Let Life mold you in the positive sense.  Don’t be overcome by these people but learn from them.  “I learned love from the loveless, patience from the impatient, strength from the weak...”  You’ll be surprised by who these “teachers” are...they may be your parents, children, spouse, colleagues...those closest to you. 

 

Write out the new story of your unfolding abundance and watch it happen.  Take a moment to write your story of the next step and watch it unfold. Be the writer of your script and let it go.  Don’t feel the need to repeat it or continually focus on it.  Just write it and let it go today.  Take note of the clues you see that it’s coming and becoming reality, be thankful! 

 

Read the tea leaves of your life and go for it.  Things are falling into place every day for you.  Look for your divine guidance and give it a shot!  If you get it wrong, you can correct, if you get it right, be ready for the ride of your life!  The Universe is more exciting and interesting than we realize until we see where it’s going and go with it!  “Turn your boat downstream” and feel the power of the positive current. 

 

Allow the Christ within to guide and lead you and work through you. The Universe is forming you and leading you to fulfill your work in the world.  Let it happen, get quiet, hear from within and do it.  You’ll see it leads to important and interesting tasks even in the mundane daily routines.   

 

The Universe has a plan to mold you like a Potters forming clay...Let it happen, don’t fight it, don’t stress over it.  Just go with the current of where your life is taking you.  Work to be the best version of yourself and realize that your close relationships and Love are all that really satisfy 

 

Let your life unfold...good things are coming, be open and relaxed.  We get so uptight about transitions and the desire to move forward.  Relaxing and watching it happen is a much more peaceful way to proceed.  Cultivate your partner’s support if possible and do it together, it makes the journey so much better. 

 

Dig the gold in the field you’re standing in, bloom where you’re planted.  What you’re looking for is in front of you, in the terra that you live in and very close at hand...Look for it!  You’ll find the good in your current reality.  The “Grass is always Greener” is simply not true, you’re already in the midst of an Abundant reality that holds the clues to your next step of abundance...Find it and start digging! 

 

There are two lies:  Fear is real (It’s not), Others have more than you do (they have challenges too).  Fear keeps us frozen in where we are.  It’s not real, so open your mind and heart to the reality that you can do what you fear.  Your fears will not come to pass.  If something happens, your way forward will appear.  Also, others have challenges as big as yours, so get over the erroneous thought that they have it better...They don’t!  Go forward on your path fearlessly, don’t use others as a measure of your path or progress.   

 

Say ”Yes” to Life and your opportunities.  Take what’s in front of you and run with it.  Don’t wish you were somewhere else, with someone else, just give your all to the moment and see where Life takes you.   

 

Listen, Be Kind, Be Joyful/Lighthearted.  Remember we all have soft spots, be patient, think of how to make that person feel good about themselves, Love.  People will remember how you made them feel.  You’re here to touch other people...make sure it’s a positive, uplifting touch when possible! 

 

Read your Holy Book everyday.  Wash your mind in something you think is important, uplifting, magical...   The Bible/Koran/Book of Mormon/Book of Miracle/Tao Ching, Science of the Mind... It doesn’t matter if you concentrate on each word, just let the impact hit you subconsciously.  You will benefit from this kind of mind-washing. 

 

Keep Diggin’ Deeper into your Passion.  You’ve made progress by being a Pro and learning your tools. Now put them to use and compose, write, paint, create something...!  The next level is waiting and you’ll keep your eye on the goal.  Then publish it!  Rinse and repeat! 

 

Do the work, be a Pro, make the decision and do it.  Most goals are not reached because we never decided to do it and committed to it.  Commit to being a Pro in your chosen passion, work, relationship, ministry, personal healing, personal transformation...  Do what you need to do.  You already know what you need to do.  If you don’t, your teacher will arrive when you’re ready...follow the tasks and see where they take you and see what happens to you.  It’s really all about how you let it affect you...! 

 

Say “Yes” to Life...Let Life change you, it’s what it’s all about...  Dr. Suess said it well:  “Life is too short to wake up in the morning with regrets.  So, love the people who treat you right, forgive the ones who don’t and believe that everything happens for a reason.  If you get the chance, take it.  If it changes your life, let it.  Nobody said it would be easy, they just promised that it would be worth it.” 

 

Life Really is a Game!  Change your view of your life and you’ll enjoy it more.  If life really is a game...play it!  Try applying for jobs you don’t qualify for, look for the unexpected, the interesting and see what happens when you follow it down the rabbit hole.  You may end up learning something, doing something new, enlarging your awareness and seeing the impossible become possible...You’ll grow, benefit and God forbid...maybe even have fun.   

 

You can begin your long-term projects and make progress!!  It really is possible to accomplish long term goals by taking small steps and celebrating progress.  Enthusiasm is more important than intelligence, talent or hard work.  Regain your enthusiasm for what gives you life and you’ll see real progress which pushes you forward quickly! 

 

Remind yourself of what “Plan A” is and go for that.  A friend my age passed away the other day.  It reminded me that my mortality is beyond my control.  Yes, I’m doing all I can to live healthy...but anything could happen at any time.  SO... Go back to “Plan A” and decide to not settle.  Make progress towards “Plan A” today and live in the joy and happiness of the moment.  Hug the one’s you love, let the stupid stuff roll off, don’t take things personally and constantly let your thought roll off you.  “God heal me from my thoughts” is helpful when fearful or anger provoking thoughts arise.  Do what matters to you, make progress, delight in the delightful and enjoy the energy of your passions to feed your soul...that’s why you have them! 

 

Maintain a 20 year old mind.  A 20 year old is just looking at the next step when it comes up.  They’re looking for what seems interesting.  They believe it will all work out.  They march on without being too concerned about the consequences.  This is where I am returning to in my 60’s.  What’s keeping me from it?  Myself and my thoughts and my accepting non reality as reality.  In other words, I am the one keeping me from this place...no one or no-thing else.  Change your thoughts, let the fear go, do what’s in front of you passionately and see where it all takes you...now that’s living, and that’s freedom and that’s reality.   

 

Remember when you were 20 and what excited you, your hopes and lack of heavy constraints...  It’s still true and an important place to revisit.  When you were young and carefree you could get excited about simple things and look forward to things coming up and what you were doing that day.  That childlike attitude is what we were made to experience.   It becomes more difficult as you age but it can still be remembered, experienced and perhaps even returned to.   

 

Celebrate the Milestones.   A child turns 10-20-30, 20 years since 911, anniversaries, years at a job, months/years of recovery/keeping with a program-commitment...  Take the moment to reflect on these milestones and see the progress you’re making.  In the everyday mundane activities, it’s not easy to see the bigger picture of our lives passing and progressing.  The progress gives us hope that we can do the things we love, with people we love and be happy.   

 

You are the plane!  “God is my co-pilot" used to make sense to me.  Then the more intense version is:  “I am God’s co-pilot" I.e.  God is running the show.  Now the clearer concept for me is that I am the plane and the Universe is providing me with the opportunities, experiences for me to participate in/take advantage of/live.   

 

Go after your key projects and make progress today.  Celebrate your progress as you work on the important skills.  Next, use your new skills to make projects that are the real goal.  Then find a way to document and publish it.  If all you do is publish a video to a friend...that’s a good start! 

 

Clear your mind of thoughts that are not real.  The biggest threat to your success, peace, sleep, work... is thought that brings negativity and false fear.  I find that the prayer:  “God heal my thoughts” is helpful to release the negative thoughts that are disturbing.   

 

Make people feel listened to and loved and you’ve really accomplished something.  Everything else is really just “side salads” and secondary.  Very little of what goes on daily matters...don’t take yourself or these events too seriously, because they are not real or serious or worth the emotions that they elicit.  Do what seems important, immediate, urgent, loving and that’s about all you’ll get done on a daily basis. 

 

Don’t get caught up in other people’s Dramas...  It’s so easy to get caught up in other people’s drama...we are addicted to drama, keeping score, dwelling on negative past issues... none of it is real.  We give our power away to this crap...let it go, walk away, tell a different story, live your own life...  You give up your personal control of your life by letting this stuff in to your life through the front door of your creative thoughts.  USE YOUR WONDERFUL MIND FOR HIGHER THINGS... 

 

Do what’s cool, interesting, exciting, mysterious, magical... that’s where the juice is.  ”Follow your bliss” is the best advice from Joseph Campbell.  I’ve been doing what I thought was cool since I was young.  I’m thankful that my faith journey started early.  Little did I know at the time that it was an ”awareness breakthrough” and not a ”salvation event.”  Little did I know that I’d have to struggle through my addictive nature/issues.  I’m still struggling with it... thankfully making progress! 


August 2021



Relax into the Unfolding and live in the effortless state of manifestation without your control.  We have the illusion of control.  We work hard and get results or we do nothing and get lucky.  We do the right things and get a negative result...and wonder why “Bad things happen to Good People doing the right things.”  Truth is, we don’t have the control we’d like or wish we’d have.  We do have control over our reaction.  We can choose to see the illusion of our thoughts and not play that game.   Play a different game today and see what happens. 

 

Watch your Life Unfold as the Universe moves forward.  See what your opportunities are and watch for signs of what’s next.  It should make sense, be effortless and appreciate your unique qualities.  “Turn your boat downstream” and see where the current is leading you.  It may be in a direction you may not understand or have experience with but it’s a stepping stone so “Go for it!” 

 

When the Student is ready, the Teacher shows up.  We often want to hurry things along and miss that it’s a journey, a process and you’re ready when you’re ready.  See what you’re understanding today and recognize your current teacher, get involved and follow and learn.  The next step will come when you’ve finished the step you’re on.  Some things are just too advanced for your level of consciousness...don’t fret, it will be clear at the perfect time.  Timing truly is everything.   

 

Focused, concentrated action for short periods of time creates results.Pick the one skill that will bring you to the next level and focus on it until you master it.  This technique takes you out of the procrastination/dreamer/amateur level and brings you to the Pro level.  Anything that interferes with your focus needs to go.  Start with eliminating your T.V. time.  Make sure your focus task/skill can be done anytime, anywhere you used to watch T.V.  Like Sugar, take T.V. out of your life unless it’s to watch for cataclysmic events/acts of God, Wars, Crashes...Even there don’t waste time on following up, it will come to you when you need it. 

 

Get out of the way.  The new is coming and your stress will not hasten it.  Watch your life unfold and go with the flow.  Point your boat downstream.  Focus on being happy, positive, flexible and attentive to the Universe’ cues and clues.  It’s in front of you, you have what you need, relax and discover your inner power that has always been there and always will be there.   

 

Focus on one tool at a time.  If you have limited time, are traveling...focus on one simple task and one tool so you actually accomplish something.  Deep knowledge of a tool will be valuable.  Choose an original piece to work on so it really counts and keeps your motivation high. 

 

It’s time to publish daily...giterdone.  You have material that you need to publish.  You don’t need to be a perfectionist...just do it!  As you publish, adjust, get better...you’ll improve and become confident in your content.  Don’t wait until it’s right/perfect...just start the regular routine of publishing today.  Take one content piece and do it today.   

 

Have one way of creating that you know well and use it as often as possible.  It’s easy to get distracted by all the shiny objects, i.e. new toys for creative work.  That’s fine but don’t let it distract you from getting work done and making progress on your production and publishing goals.  If you don’t get your creativity out, it will never be heard/enjoyed/paid for/realized... 

 

Be Ready when Creativity Strikes – Get it down quickly before it disappears!  We have so many good ideas that come and go and we often wrongly think that they will come back but they don’t!  Have a way to sketch your ideas down quickly so you don’t lose them and you can come back later to flesh them out! 

 

Track Your Pro Work – It's important!  Your “Pro Work” is important to track, celebrate and watch the results grow.  Your commitment to “doing the work” will bring you where you want to go.   

 

Schedule vacations. If your vacation is really just a holiday...take it!  Treat it like a vacation away even if you’re staying home.  Find a way to make it special and get some needed rest and stress reduction.  Live your life!  Don’t wait for big events, make a small moment big and memorable. 

 

Celebrate your goal achievement and progress!  Set mini goals and watch as you make progress.  Document your success and it will increase your velocity of moving towards the big goals.   

 

Publish your work.  There are so many ways to publish your work online...take advantage of the power of publishing and get your work out.  Make it a regular routine to publish your work, even if it’s “under construction.” 

 

The Debtor is slave to the Debt-Giver.  Keep light, stay out of debt, be responsible.  You are free if you owe no person money.  The less you have the less you’re enslaved to your possessions. 

 

Work on one project at a time.  Multi-tasking is overrated and the bane of getting things done.  Pick one important task and finish it without distractions.  See how you feel and do it again!  Take something that you’ve put off doing for a very long time and see it through to completion.   

 

Make it Portable.  Make sure you can do your important routines anywhere/everywhere.  It’s too easy to make excuses for not being able to do your thing...Do it and make it doable anywhere you have a small area on a table.   

 

Seek Happiness and find it within, you’re already perfect.  The only real goal is happiness.  The only place to find it is within.  External goals, things, people...will not bring you happiness.  Find your source within and be happy today.   

 

Write your affirmations on a card and set them on fire...let go of them.Detachment from your desires is an important step to seeing them come true.  The more you write out your desires, the more you keep them at bay.  Declare them and let them go and watch them happen at the perfect time.  Look for clues and follow what you need to do! 

 

Evidence journal.  Look for evidence that your life is moving in the direction you want.  Interpret your life as a success story filled with synchronicities, good luck, divine guidance, cool things, cool people...  Life is what you make it and you’ve got the skills to make it good.  You have everything you need right now, go and find it. 

 

Thankfulness will bring more of what you’re thankful for.  Take time to write out what you’re thankful for.  Focusing on goals can maintain a state of “want.”  Thankfulness will fill you with the good that you see and have.   

 

Move On, Let Go, Forgive.  You’ve dropped the Blade, you see the negative to let go, you forgive and make room for the good and new. 

 

Become a Pro.  Make the decision and take the actions to be a professional:  musician, writer, painter, creative person.  Do what a pro would do.  Do the work whether you feel like it or not.  Make the muse, push forward and see the creative expression come from unknown places. 

 

Make Room for the New.  Dropping the blade on old clothes, possessions that you don’t use or care about allows a space for the new.   

 

Let go of your fantasy of the past!  We often cherish moments and people in our lives whose time has passed.  You’ve grown and moved on...so have they!  Keep in the moment of what’s actually going on and let go of the past fantasies.   

 

Drop the Blade... If you haven’t used it in years, let it go.  Lighten the ship.  Soon you’ll find that if you haven’t used it in a year, let it go.  Recirculating possessions, books, clothes, equipment...helps keep you fresh and gives another person the opportunity to grow from your patrimony. 

 

Schedule mini-Sabbaticals to refresh and refocus.  It’s so easy to stay on the Hamster wheel.  Take a break, read a book, sit and reflect, fast, pray, journal and remember why you’re on the planet.  Remember what moves you and dig deeper.  Your time is limited, use it wisely! 

 

Letting Go of Stuff!  It’s difficult to let go of your stuff...  As you go through each piece you remember why you bought it and how it made you feel. The fantasy of reading it, using it, benefiting from it comes back.  It’s really an illusion.  But it’s an illusion that really sticks to you if this is one of your issues.  Deal with it head on and let go, make room for less and discover that less is more! 

 

Heal the Gut, it’s the basis of health.  In your healing process...look to your gut as an important place to start.  Research the importance of Gut health for your overall health and take steps to correct it and heal it.  Your whole body will benefit. 

 

Remove the Clutter.  If you haven’t used it for years, give it away.  If you don’t fit in it, give it away.  Your excess could be another’s treasure.  Participate in the flow of life by giving it away.  See what matters and focus on it.  Clothes to Salvation Army, Books to Churches/Libraries.  Sell what you can, give the rest away.  Then look at what you want to focus on and get rid of the extra.   

 

Change your look!  If the new you inside is coming together, change it up and change your look outside.  See what a different look is like for you.  Maybe it’s good, maybe not but it’s a way to continue to shake things up and try new things.  Get your partner involved if possible.  If not, just do it! 

 

Expect the Unexpected!  Your next step may come from a very unusual source.  Take it seriously, check it out, be open to new paths/destinations/purposes/connections.  Your life is about growth and experience so the next step may be something very different...go with it! 

 

Look for something ”cool” to do!  So many of our choices in life are because we are forced/required to do them.  The world today is so full of opportunities and choices and connection possibilities that it’s the ideal moment to look for interesting things to do rather than what we think we must do.  Get in touch with that, open your mind to it and it will find you. 

 

Stop Overspending.  Overspending, like overeating, can ruin your life.  If you need to go through a transition your overspending will raise your debt level to a pain point.  Your overspending will shackle you and keep you from doing the work you’re spending for.   

 


July 2021


Keep Positive, Stop Complaining and Don’t participate in other’s negativity.  Negativity really kills the spirit, the dreams and the body.  Don’t jump in with others in panicking, gossiping, complaining, being generally negative.  Stick to your guns and just say NO. 

 

Stay the Course, Believe in what you’re doing!  Faith is only important when you don’t see the next step.  It’s easy to panic and it’s even tougher if your significant others are panicking.  Now’s the time to kick it into gear and see the provision.  Do what you are led to do, take stabs, look for the Unicorn, be the Unicorn! 

 

Write an Adventure and do it!  Think of something that gets your juices flowing and make plans to do it.  Do you have an opportunity play for people?  Make it an adventure and do your best to play well.  Can you arrange for a Busker gig in a cool place?  Do it!  Get your set together and play.  See what happens when you put yourself out there.  Make sure you have your business cards to promote your online presence...the Universe will come through, just watch! 

 

The addiction to equipment is really procrastination.  You don’t need the best equipment to do your work, to exercise your creativity or publish your art.  Just use what you have and focus on the work rather than the process or methods or expensive equipment that you ”need.”  Your real issue may be your spending addiction.  Deal with that by proving to yourself that you can do with what you have.  There’s a lot of power in not needing things to do your work, be yourself, fulfill your life purpose. 

 

Stick with Plan A.  When things are going well and you have confidence to reach for your highest goal...then it all abruptly changes and you have a crisis/challenge.  It’s tempting to let Plan A go and focus on whatever you know.  Like a major drop in the Stock Market, a downturn may be the time to double down and believe even more in your Plan A.  It may be the Universe’s way of making room for the next thing.  


Be Careful what you Ask for!  Often wishful thinking/affirming/writing can lead to the Universe taking you seriously...Oh snap now what?!  The panic of having a major opportunity to move forward with an ideal goal can lead to self-sabotage, procrastination, denial...  Just take one step at a time and see where it goes. Begin affirming the peace and effortlessness of the manifestation.  Watch for “Flow” and jump in.  Keep it secret so your treasured desire doesn’t get trampled on by well-meaning friends and loved ones.  Ignore the negative and delight in the possible/ideal result.  See what happens!  It’s worth the risk.   

 

Ask people about themselves and listen.  Your interest in others will make you welcome in their world.  Get to know what motivates people, what they’re interested in and what their ”thing” is.  You’ll bless them with your attention, you’ll learn something new and you’ll establish a caring relationship with someone.  It will benefit them immediately and be beneficial to you when you’re in need.  Giving to people in this way builds up a reservoir of good will and is important.   

 

Take your opportunities as steppingstones and make them meaningful.If you’re playing music at a church, a family event or a neighborhood party, treat it as a gig, work hard to prepare, make it happen and see what the Universe gives you next.  Each opportunity, no matter how small or insignificant, is the next step for you and will bring the bigger step after that.   

 

Find Common Ground, Be Agreeable.  It’s a challenge to find common ground with the diverse people you encounter daily.  The connection points are what create relationships that are meaningful.  Take the challenge of finding common ground and letting go of the conflict points.  This is true for work, marriage, friendships and all the relationships you have.  Certain relationships will be much easier because you have a lot in common and you’ll benefit from these connections/information/relationships.  Others will be much more challenging and these people are in your life to help you grow and expand your consciousness.  Accept the gift and learn from it. 

 

Quick plan your ideal day.  Spend a max of 5 minutes imagining your perfect day.  Don’t over think, just write and let go.  Keep it for the day and see how you do.  Start with the most important things first.  If you can do just one thing today to move forward in your life, what would you do??  Do this for family, personal growth and work. 

 

To quote the Bible:  Because He Himself suffered, he is able to help those who are being tempted. Embrace your story, retell it as a necessary character builder of who you are today.  Your story will help others because of your struggles, issues, challenges, failures, and successes.  Looking back will help you to accept the present moment with its issues, challenges, failures, and promise.  Every moment has these elements, and you can interpret them negatively or positively as steppingstones to what you are becoming.   

 

Set Concrete Deadlines for your Body Transformation.Time bound; specific, realistic, positive, weight goals will help your transformation.  Meeting these goals will be powerful reminders that “You can do this!”  Watch out, because this confidence will soon spill into other areas of your life as you see a wholistic transformation of body, mind and spirit.   

 

Fasting is a tool for detox, healing, weight loss and self-control.  The body has a mechanism for resetting, healing itself, regenerating cells, detoxing...it’s fasting.  When you fast, you activate your natural healing powers for your good.  You also will sharpen your mind, your sense of self-control and your freedom.  Enslavement to habits and addictions is devastating.  Fasting demonstrates that you can and are free from any shackles you’ve taken on:  Alcohol, Overeating, Overspending, Negative Thoughts, Procrastination...  Use fasting for each of these issues.  Start slow and become accustomed to the feelijng/experience.  Research and test what’s best for you.  There are a lot of resources online and from the medical community if you look for it.   

 

Change your Diet Change your life.  “You are what you eat, food is medicine...” are both platitudes and truths.  Research a diet that works for you for your way of understanding your body and your values.  The underlying issue is hormonal:  insulin resistance.  What you eat is important, how much you eat and when you eat will fill out the full picture. 

 

Make intermediate progress goal deadlines.  The important life goals will require “progress goal deadlines” to see movement and keep the momentum going.  

 

Set Goals with Deadlines that are meaning for you.  It’s important to set specific goals and make them time bound.  Associating your goal deadlines with important life dates is also helpful (birthday, new year, anniversary, life change date...).  Setting reachable goals and stretch goals help propel you forward.  Take time to celebrate the successes and make the adjustments for the goals that were premature.  As Vince Lombardi said after a loss:  “We didn’t lose, we just ran out of time.”  If a goal deadline was unreachable, push it out and get started on the next date.  You’ll most likely need to change your approach to reach it...that’s good too! 

 

Watch the Universe unfold its purpose for you.  Take the necessary steps you have in front of you, “eat the frog” and you’ll see the Universe reveal the next step in your Journey of purpose.  Journal, be positive, share with your close partner and be patient.  It’s coming even if you can’t see it.  Take every forward step as part of the unfolding and the revelation of the next step.  When the next step comes...TAKE IT! 

 

Remove Clutter of all kinds.  Sometimes the next step doesn’t become clear until you remove the clutter.  Clutter can be physical, mental, work related, past hurts, relationship issues...and will inhibit your forward movement.  Try letting go of old clothes, old hangups, old hurts, old unforgiveness, old ideas of what you can/cannot do, old limitations of any kind and see what happens when you remove them.   

 

Move.  Sometimes just a small amount of movement makes a huge difference in the quality of our daily life, health, weight and general well-being.  Find a regular routine of 15 minutes daily plus some walking and you’ll be there.  Mix it up, make it regular and find moments where you add more.   

 

Learn to Breathe.  The one thing we all share in common is our breathing.  There are centuries of information and experience dealing with breathing.  Find an information source that makes sense to you and learn how to add breathing to your daily learning regiment.  

 

Rediscover your passion.  Explore your passion and remember what it was that attracted you to it in the beginning.  Sometimes it’s as simple as just playing and feeling what you’re doing, paying attention to it.  We overthink so many things, circumstances, relationships, work...  Just stop and experience your passion and reconnect the dots.  Find a practice that gets you there and do it daily as a priority in your day before work, family, issues take over. 

 

“How can I be the best me today?”  Ask yourself power questions to receive answers from your higher self, the Universe, God, your loved ones, your circumstances, your synchronicities...  Start with being your best self then move to more specific topics.  Ask the question in a relaxed quiet state, following your breathing and see what you get.  Limit your moment to 10 minutes max.  You could also write out the question and burn it.  Release it to the Universe and see what you receive and how you receive it.  Then, ACT ON IT!.  Your message is time bounded just for today so use it or lose it. 

 

It’s all about Relationships and Love.  Sounds corny and a bit hippy but it’s true.  When you see old friends, relatives you haven’t seen for a while, return home to your loved ones and routine...it’s a reminder that life is really about the quality of your relationships.  Listening, loving, caring, sharing is really the goal, reward, challenge, and point of life.  Good to experience this, good to be part of it.  The rest falls into place afterwards. 

 

Stay the Course, ignore peer pressure.  So you’re doing your routine, you’re seeing results and now you’re with people who would like you to return to your former ways...  STAY THE COURSE, STICK TO YOUR GUNS, IGNORE THEIR PEER PRESSURE.  Sometimes the people closest to you are the ones who are the least supportive.  Often they’ll want to get you to cheat, act out with them...  Remove yourself physically, mentally, spiritually from these people and situations.  Find strength in your resolve to heal, improve, move forward, live at a higher level and Stay the Course! 

 

Stick up for yourself.  You will have situations where you’ll need to express firmly what you want and need.  You may need to defend yourself against people who seek to take advantage of you.  The Universe has given you this challenge to show you that you can be confident and take care of your interests in the face of difficult people/companies/organizations...  You can and MUST do it. 

 

Figure out what your partner wants/needs and give it to her/him.  Sounds simple but it’s not.  Some couples never figure it out and have conflict everyday.  Most likely your partner is telling you on a daily basis and you’re not paying attention because it’s outside of what you think is important.  You could also be just plain selfish and not care.  Whatever the reason, take notes, be proactive, pay attention and make progress.  You may be pleasantly surprised.  Expect this to take time so begin with the obvious and work from there.  Differences in sex and temperament and ”opposites attract” are all factors that will make this a challenge.  You can do it! 

 

Find joy in transition.  The Universe is taking things out so it can put better things in its place.  Don’t be afraid of loss, look forward to what’s coming.  Like the end of the school year as a kid, your transition is the end of one chapter and the beginning of another, more interesting chapter.   

 

Write your story of where your life is ideally going.  Interpret your present situation is terms of your ideal life.  Think it, imagine it, write it down, share it with your partner or someone you trust to support and celebrate with you.  It’s coming, it’s very good and you will start a new chapter that will excelerate your growth and abundance.  Embrace it, enjoy the present moment and be at hopeful, excited, peace and joy.  Show more love to others from this place of joy.   

 

The Universe is shouting its love and highest purpose for you.  Take time to reflect, listen and see where the Universe is taking your life. Enjoy the moment, think less, feel more, let it happen.  Realize that you have less control than you hope and also less stress because you can let it just unfold...celebrate the generous, joyful provision.  Shuck the old and embrace the new, don’t look back.  Drop the wrench, pencil...stress and revel in the joy and provision of the present moment.  You are perfect and at peace in this moment. 

 

Measure your goals, set deadlines.  Measuring your progress and setting deadlines keep you moving forward and keep you motivated and/or in check.  If you need to change the deadline and/or the goal...no problem!  As you move forward you’ll figure out what’s possible, what’s a stretch and what your faith goals are.  You’ll be surprised what is possible for you as you document and keep track of your progress.  Looking back, you may have done miracles over a period of time! 

 

The Universe is in control.  There are large forces at work that you cannot see.  Sometimes it’s difficult to believe that the right things will happen at the right time...but they will!  Believe that your highest good is on the way and all you need to do is get in line with the change that’s coming.  A transition is a wonderful chance to exercise the muscle of faith.  Rest in peace, find the place of tranquility within you, appreciate the support of your loved ones and friends, take care of your body, take care of your mind.  Learn what you need to learn to deal with the stress in your life.  Eliminate clutter, focus on the essentials and let go of the crap.  This is a powerful, positive detox moment for you, benefit from it! 

 

Wait for the Universe to do its work.  Patience in transition is often very challenging.  Waiting for the Universe to put things together takes discipline and an attitude adjustment.  Imagine your best life, try to live it and expect that something positive is coming.  People will show up, opportunities will arise, expect good things.  Make sure to journal the experience and watch the miracle.  The adage:  “Work as if it all depends on you and pray as though it all depends on God” is very wise and true.  Do whatever you think is good, cast a wide net and pray/watch for the unexpected and the “road less traveled”.   

 

Listen to your heart and do what you need to do.  Tough moments come when you just need to listen to your heart and do what needs to be done.  Have courage, lean on the support you have of your partner and go forward.  Life and transitions are often challenging but you grow through the stress.  You can do this! 

 

Expect Something New Today!  Transitions, setbacks and surprises can be unsettling, but they can also be exciting if you change your attitude and expect something new and good to come up.  Change and growth require stress and effort with moments of the body rebuilding and healing.  Learn from your body and how it grows, heals and moves forward positively.  If you’re stuck in old ways of thinking you’ll feel trapped and see the world as a negative, difficult place.  BUT if you see that the struggle brought you something valuable, you can grow from it and take it with you.  It’s all in your choice of mindset and how you react to the situation. 

 


June 2021


Be Hopeful, something good and perhaps unexpected will happen today.Sounds a bit like a Chinese cookie proverb but sometimes this expectation is both true and necessary.  Take a different perspective if you’re going through uncertain times.  Life is a game, play it, enjoy it, watch for the Universe’ next step.  Go with the breeze, don’t be rigid.  Listen to your intuition and do your best to read the circumstances.  I’ll need to listen to the Alchemist again today...Urim-Thurim 

 

Recharge, re-evaluate, renew, refocus figure out the next step. Transitions and change bring a moment of reflection.  Make sure to take it!  Let the Universe-your Higher Self-Christ within-Spirit speak to you and help you see why you’re on the planet.  Get busy with what you discover, the timing is perfect.  Be open for unexpected clues, direction, opportunities.   

 

Life is change, surprises, stepping stones and forward motion.  Change is the nature of life.  Nature tends towards growth, survival and occasional forest fires to open seeds that can be opened only with fire/heat.  Embrace change as a way for new growth to appear and lead you to a higher place.  Chaos is always a bit daunting at first but you’re unbreakable even if you don’t realize it.  Your Soul works at a higher level where there is always sunshine.  You may be experiencing the storm and not see the Sun but your Soul sees it and is unperturbed.  Be at peace and wait for things to unfold, for new opportunities to come and for the Sun that you know is above the clouds.  Faith is believing what you cannot now see.   

 

Unexpected reversals create space for new opportunities and growth.  Something drastic/dramatic happened...that’s good!  Look for what is coming up, it’s bigger and better.  Believe that the Universe is in control and not people.  You have bigger advocates on your team than you realize, trust them and not your fear voices. 

 

Measure your growth.  Setting goals, measurable metrics, deadlines and plans for attainment are the building blocks of significant progress on what matters most.  Some goals you’ll put out there without any idea of how to accomplish them...that’s good too.  It will become clearer over time.  Make sure you have short term goals that you can reach so you see progress that will propel you towards the bigger goals.   


Do your own bio hacking. Understand how your body responds to foods, diets, exercise, fasting...  Take responsibility for the maintenance and understanding of your “temple of God.”  The body-mind connection is well documented.  Understand how you react to physical, emotional, spiritual and interpersonal stimulii.  Figure out how you work, know thy physical self and find out your optimal state.  Live your best life:  Physically, Emotionally, Spiritually and in the world with others (Interpersonally). 

 

Deal with Stress.  Learn how to refocus your thoughts, meditate, still your thoughts...  Stay away from drugs and realize that your dealing with stress is a constant in life.  Learn as soon as you can how to deal with it.  This learning/search will be a lifelong journey.  Keep at it! 

 

Celebrate meeting your goals!  Set reasonable goals and stretch goals.  When you meet those reasonable goals, the stretch goals look possible/doable.  Progress is always a challenge and a victory.  Once you get bitten by the drug of goal fulfillment you’ll set more and accomplish more. 

 

Carry Other’s Issues without being brought down yourself.  Part of loving and managing and having relationships is carrying other’s burdens.  The trick is to make sure it doesn’t bring YOU down.  Find out how to care/love, have boundaries, let go of other people’s stuff and release it all in forgiveness and love.  Easier said than done but necessary.  Awareness alone may help with this. 

 

The Big Lesson of this Life:  Learn to Love.  Why is 1 Corinthians 13 one of the most important passages of Scripture?  Because it’s true.  “If I have...but do not have Love, I am nothing...”  The song, “Make one person happy,” is also so true, if you can’t make at least one person happy...what are you doing?  Decide to make that one person happy, decide to listen and empathize with others, decide to hold your tongue, decide to allow people the space to learn their lessons, decide to love rather than be harsh, right, smart...  It’s a decision, a commitment, a journey...get started today. 

 

When the Student is ready, the Teacher appears.  This oft repeated phrase is so true.  What teacher has arrived for you?  There are many teachers, circumstances, crises, spouses, T.V., Books, YouTube videos, or something out of the blue that comes to mind.  Take these teachers seriously and learn the lesson.  If you refuse the lesson, it will return with more force.  What you’re looking for in your life is looking for you and trying to break through.  Let it come, listen, take the steps required and watch the teacher take you where you need to go.  Don’t fight it, learn from it.  So often we keep giving the gifts back because they are not offered in the form we wanted BUT they are offered in the way you NEED it.   

 

Do something for your partner.  What is something small that you can do for your partner that shows that you’re looking out for his/her well-being? 

 

Consistency keeps the forward progress moving.  Keep up your routine, even if you need to shorten it.  The consistency will keep you and your program moving.  It’s too easy to give up for find a reason to stop.  Stopping will become a habit and eventually eliminate your progress. 

 

Do One Thing at a Time.  Multi-tasking sounds good but it isn’t.  Try focusing on one thing at a time and make sure you’re working on the important things first.  You’ll get more done, make progress on your priorities and enjoy it more.  The scatter approach sounds cool but it just doesn’t work. 

 

Fast from negativity today.  Go for the day without negativity of any kind.  Be positive, look for the good, look for the solution, look to live at a higher level.  Worry about your own righteousness, consistent behavior, Love, caring, sharing, listening.  Let go of negativity and hurt, practice forgivemess today.   

 

Mix it up, keep the variety, maintain the focus.  Our bodies and minds like habits, routine and maintenance.  To grow you need to positively stress your body and mind to try new things or just keep it interesting.  Simple changes, small changes are a great way to start.  Sometimes drastic changes are what’s required, usually in the form of crisis, loss of something, change in situation, health issues, family issues.  Greet all of it with the attitude of looking for the positive.  It’s there...find it. 

 

Make room for progress on your most important goals Fast from Food, Fast from T.V., Fast from Electronics, Fast from Spending, Fast from complaining, Fast from Negativity.  Make room for more Love, better relationships, your most important goals, room for better work, room for better health, room for a better life.   

 

Deal with Fear/Stress and be the master of your thoughts.  Fear and Stress are constant companions so develop your strategies to deal with them and don’t let the fear thoughts win.  Moving to the next level requires the ability to deal successfully with fear and stress...this in one of the reasons you’re here...to deal with these false monsters. 

 

Debt shackles you, get out of it.  Debt is like belly fat, it harms you, is a sign of deeper issues and will only be a drag on you until you remove it.  It takes discipline and a long term plan with short term habits that will ultimately be the secret.   

 

Your Adventure Starts Today, find it, live it, document it, learn from it, enjoy it.  Monday’s can be challenging...lots to do, you feel you’re already under the gun and in stress.  Flip it, think differently, see it as an adventure of discovery and experience.  Find a way to enjoy it, learn from it, find time for important things that bring you to your goals... 

 Listen More, Intuit what their needs are.  Your partner, colleague, friend, significant other is trying to tell you what they need from you.  Listen, try to give what you can to them, support them.  It takes a strong person to maintain boundaries and give support to people.  Be that strong and wise person, you’ll make yourself welcome wherever you go and whoever you’re with.   

 

Mirror your loved ones as you listen to them, help them let it out.  Your empathy for your loved ones is what they’re looking for from you – give it to them!  Let them release what’s inside.  Listen without judgement.  People in pain may not even want to speak of their suffering but rail about something else.  Let them do it...give them grace, give them the gift of listening.  You’ll need the same thing soon enough! 

 

Involve your partner, friends in your life.  Find safe ways to involve your significant others in your life and goals.  Any support you receive from others helps keep you going and encourages them by your example.  Less talking more demonstration of doing is always best.  Free, unsolicited advice or unsolicited self-praise hurts a relationship.  Focusing on others is the key.  They’ll feel better about themselves and want to be with you and encourage you. 

 

Action orientation – Find a single word to focus your mind and effort towards action.  Play, Meditate, Fast, Exercise, Call Customers, Hug, Read... 

 

Identify real stress and fake stress.  Fake stress can put you in a tailspin for no reason and take away your peace and sleep.  Ask for God to heal your thoughts and focus on doing the things you know will contribute to your life and work life.   

 

Go for it.  What’s the big goal?  Do that today.  The tendency to do anything other than what matters is a human phenomenon – makes no sense but it’s a daily issue.  Find joy in doing the important things that will bring you to the place you want to be.  Decide where you’re going and do the small, everyday things that will move you in that direction.   

 

Make a bold move and follow through.  Decide one new bold thing to do that will bring more progress to your goals and do it.  It will take 30 days of daily commitment to see it through but start today.  Commit to doing one of these things each month and you’ll move so fast you won’t recognize yourself.  Neither will anyone else. 

 

Stop Poisoning Yourself!  Learn about the relation of your body to what you eat.  Be the champion of what your body needs to thrive.  If your body thrives you will thrive.  Your mental-creative ability is affected by what you eat.  To encourage new ideas you need to eat better, sleep better and reap the benefits of clear mental thinking. 

 

Conquering your addictions/bad habits/negative patterns will propel you forward.  When you make serious progress in removing a roadblock from your journey, your progress will speed up at an exponential rate.  Pick the next important obstacle to overcome and decide to make the major change today.  If you can maintain for a month, it will stick and you’ll have a new reality.  Make this month the month you eliminate a thorny issue forever. 

 

Take it to the next level.  Focus on one thing for 30 days and see the progress.  Choose something very important and focus for 30 days to get past it, master it, make big progress.


Commit to being a lifelong learner.  You’ll need to learn something everyday.  All learning is remembering and self-teaching.  You can learn anything you want to learn.  Lose the T.V., Social Media and other time wasters and get busy working on things that take time, study and really matter.  Establish a good routine and you’ll benefit from it for the rest of your life.   

 

Pare down your todo list to the absolute most important things and do them.  It’s so easy to major on the minor things rather than do the important ones.  Focus on the important things first, do them first then move on to the trivial.  Make sure to put your personal goal tasks in that important category.  It’s easy to let the personal things slip as well. 

 

Stop Listening to “the Voice.”  Your internal banter is what’s keeping you from fulfillment.  Turn it off however you can.  “God, heal my fear thoughts, fill my mind with healing thoughts.” 



May 2021

 

Take in the Moment.  When it’s good, stop and take it in.  Is the weather perfect?  Do you feel good physically?  Are you at peace inside?  Are things going well?  Is your partner happy?  Are you happy with your partner?  Are the birds singing?  Notice what is good and sit with it, let it penetrate you and fill you with its goodness. 

 

Learn what you need to learn to move forward and do it.  Your life lessons are very similar to the reoccurring issues with the most important people in your life.  You are continually not following the rules that they need for things to work.  Likewise you are struggling with the rules the Universe/Your Higher Self/God needs for you to do in order to make your life work better.  The propensity to fail at this is puzzling, alarming and often a major nut that needs to be resolved.  Get busy resolving it.  Once you resolve and move forward you’ll face other challenges but they will be at a higher level and you’ll have the confidence that you’ve resolved the others (that you thought you couldn’t) and you’ll make big progress.  It’s worth it on a relationship level and on a personal level.   

 

Stick to your vision (your guns!).  Don’t let anyone talk you out of your plan or what you’ve decided to do.  It’s easy to be swayed and few people will understand what you’re trying to do.  If you listen, you’ll never go for your plan A and you’ll always settle for someone else’s vision or life.  It’s not easy to do this but it’s necessary.  Well meaning people will give you unsolicited advice 

 

Get Busy with the Work.  You know what you should do, follow your own advice.  Just do the work, the enthusiasm, spark, ideas, discipline, results will all follow.  Leave your excuses, laziness, procrastination at the door and forget who you are, who you’ve been and just do it. 

 

Expect results for work today 6 months from now.  There’s always a time lag from cause to effect.  What you do this week will have a result 6 months from now.  What you’re experiencing now is what you’ve sown 6 months before.  Be mindful of what you want to receive 6 months from now and act accordingly. 

 

Surrender your fear thoughts to the Universe and expect the provision you need.  Fear thoughts can keep you up at night and steal your peace in the day, don’t let it.  The Universe can do things we cannot.  We need to believe and trust the Force of the Universe to take care of us and our loved ones.  Don’t forget to do the work, it will set other powerful forces in play that will accelerate your progress. 

Work as if it all depends on you, pray as if it all depends on the Universe. 

 

Action gets things done, contemplate but then act.  It’s easy to get caught up in your head and never move forward or spend your time buying tools of the trade without actually doing the trade.  Stop!  Make a few quick goals to move forward, follow the path you’re following and moving on.  Use the tools, don’t collect them.  You may need to focus on just a few things at a time, choose them according to your passion for them. 

 

Dealing with Stress is a primary life lesson we’re here to learn.  Stress is not something modern or new.  It was for more basic things originally – food, shelter, procreation, protection.  Now it’s a host of other things.  If you don’t deal with stress you’ll not be able to deal with life.  The fundamental illusory nature of stress is a major hurdle to overcoming the domination of stress.  “Don’t sweat the small things, and it’s all small things,” is true, true, true... 

 

Wake up and smell the coffee...  You only have this moment to live and maximize your life.  Take it, run with it, find the job in the small and large things you need to do today.  Decide to decide something today that will make a difference in the future.  Do it today, it will bear fruit later when you need it.  Doing in the moment is powerful and creative – create your life, even more than living it.  Lead the life you want rather than what someone else wants.  It’s in front of you...grab it. 

 

See aggravations for what they really are...distractions.  So much of what aggravates us is really unimportant and trivial.  See it for what it is and don’t waste your mental energy on things that don’t matter.  Focus on what does matter instead!  Do something that’s important to you to move on.   

 

7 Questions to maximize today: 

Whose Life am I going to brighten today?  What three things am I most grateful for today?  What memories am I going to create today?  What challenge am I going to overcome today?  What value am I going to create today?  How much joy can I create for others today?  What life-changing decision am I going to make today? 

 

Good Habits are excellent Masters, Poor Habits are harsh Masters...choose your Masters wisely.  Short term delight can quickly become a painful consequence.  Drinking, poor eating, pornography, procrastination, strong language...all reap consequences that are regrettable quickly.  Other long term issues become long term handicaps that are more difficult to turn around.  They all start and continue with short term decisions.  “I’ll just party a little tonight, I’ll have that junk food, I’ll watch that porno, I’ll get online and spend that money, gamble, make bad comments to someone...  Your choices today will create your day tomorrow.   

 

When you meet resistance, stop and choose a different approach.  “A soft answer turns away anger, but a sharp word makes tempers hot.”  Arguing never brings a positive result.  Arguing may be a way of sticking up for yourself and making your opinion known but it seldom brings the result you’re looking for.  Be wise, back up and try something new or at least give yourself time to figure it out.  Once you’ve said harsh words or done impulsive things it’s impossible to take it back.  

 

Get up early, work on your most important tasks first.  Do your routine, make a great day from the beginning.  Your morning routine will get you on track from the start of the day and get you “ahead” of your day and its many responsibilities.   


Find Common Ground – Connect with People.  It’s easy to find reasons for division, it’s better to find places of contact and common ground.  Living together in harmony is more problematic now than ever (or is it?!?).  Find a way to connect and you’ll increase your joy, network of friends and love among family.  Let go of the past and contentious subjects, focus on the good, common ground and love/respect you have for people and hope to receive yourself. 


Tell the Story you want to live and the person you want to be.  Self-talk can save you or keep you struggling.  Decide the story you want to live and tell that story to yourself.  See everything as a stepping stone to the story you want for yourself.  All conflict, challenges, disruptions will lead you forward on your story if you know what it is and where you want to end up.  Let the Universe take care of the details.  You provide the story, the Universe will provide you with the means to make it happen.  Be flexible and take the Universe’s provisions with humility and thankfulness and you’ll weave your way to the outcomes you desire...or something much better! 

 

Synchronicity – look for it, have faith in it.  Faith is believing what you can’t see.  Decide what you need in this moment and let the Universe bring it to you.  Do you need Gas in a Gas shortage?  Let the Universe bring it to you, follow your best hunch and expect results.  Do you need/want to pay off your house?  Put it out there and follow your best council to make it happen. 

 

The Future is here, Get Serious.  Every now and then you take stock of where you’re at and where you want to be and where you want to aim for.  What are you investing in?  How do you retain what you’ve worked for?  Do you want control of your life and future? 

 

Meditation for relief and procrastination avoidance.  Take mental-meditation breaks, walks, exercise, play to fill up the tendency to procrastinate.  Let the Universe reveal its plan for you and others.  Listen for the next step, take action on what you hear.


Mental unplugging is very important.  Make sure you’re making time for rest and unplugging.  Enjoy the abundance you have!  Enjoy playing, interacting with loved ones and just enjoying nature.  It’s so easy to get caught up in life and not live! 


Understand  Your Vendor’s Motives – Buyer Beware!  Cars, insurance, investments, medical diagnoses...are ALL BIASED!!  Do your own research, get other opinions and be VERY slow to let go of your assets, time, property...  Understand where your vendors are getting paid and make sure it’s in line with your goals and interests.   

 

Save Money, understand the mechanics of money and put money away to protect you and your family, it will become important.  Financial competence is an important ability to cultivate.  It will become important in the moment that you can do the least about it.  Do it while you’re strong and young.  Be kind to the older version of yourself.  


Keep making progress...take the steps forward towards your goal and you’ll get there.  Even if you just make 5 minutes of progress forward...it does matter.  Do it every day!! 


Sometimes it’s enough to still be standing.  If you’ve had a difficult day or week or year, sometimes the perseverance is the victory.  Celebrate having survived to fight another day.  Get ready for new things to happen and the Universe to provide a way forward. 


Prioritize your top two personal goals and make sure you work on them each morning.  It’s always easy to find a reason to not follow your most important goals.  Make a commitment to spend at least 5 minutes on your most important 2 goals each morning prior to work.  If you need to get up earlier, do it.  If you need to change your routine, do it.  You can always find 5 minutes.  5 minutes will turn into 15 or more...do it, JUST DO IT.


Take time to prepare and plan.  Plan your work, work your plan.  Good planning helps avoid mistakes, helps reduce stress, helps keep focus, keeps you moving towards your goals.  Planning with 2 important todo’s before sleeping allows your subconscious to work on something at night with answers in the morning.  Place your goals/plans in your subconscious as a question:  “How do I increase my sales to meet budget tomorrow?”  “Which musical goal is most important to work on tomorrow?”  You’ll be amazed at the results.


Make Plans to accomplish your Goals.  It’s great to have goals but plans are what happen when you bring your goals to completion.  Make plans to reach the results you want.  Start with one monthly result that moves you forward and do more as you succeed.  Too many plans stall out results, it becomes too much.  Start with a reachable plan this month and see it grow.


Stick up for yourself.  What you allow will persist.  If there’s inappropriate behavior in your work life, home life, church life... don’t be afraid to confront it directly, take necessary steps and leave if you have to.  Defending yourself, your family, your friends, your colleagues is part of an adult life and will be appreciated by the people you defend.  You’ll feel better about yourself that you didn’t allow someone to bully, name call, say inappropriate things...It’s difficult in the short run but necessary and good in the long run.


Eat the Frog.  Pick your most avoidance task and do it first, get it over with.  Find the “stress buster” tasks and get on them so you can master your stress, enjoy your life, bring results and make things happen.  Your “Frogs” are there as opportunities for growth, teachers, signs of the next step...love them, eat them and keep moving.


Ignore the noise.  When the going gets tough the weak throw stones.  The real managers look for solutions and get involved in making things happen.  The false managers throw stones, engage in name calling, shaming and negative talk as a motivator. 


Make the Best of a Situation...It’s all an adventure and a test.  When things happen that you have no control over, it’s an adventure, a test, a moment to turn from irritation to gain.  Turn a negative into a positive by keeping with your routine/program, working on your goals, maintaining your sobriety from your challenges (alcohol, drugs, eating, spending, sexual issues…).  Look for the positive, send out a positive into the world, find the joy/message/rest/humor…march on!



April 2021



Peer Pressure is a challenge at any age.  We’re social creatures and don’t like to go against the crowd or feel strange because we don’t fit in.  Even at an age when you shouldn’t care, you try to fit in.  This is a challenge in business and other situations where you end up drinking or eating something outside of your personal rules.  You’ll pay the price for it.  Find a way to be bigger than these situations and navigate them without compromising your standards.  Easier said than done but it’s a real accomplishment when you do.


T.V. is crack – Let it go, don’t accept any excuses.  T.V. is like cigarettes, alcohol, drugs and other time wasters/life wasters.  We make excuses for “needing” to do it and waste our time and life for no return whatsoever.  Let it go...find a replacement that is life giving and you’ll not go back...for any reason.


Put Yourself Out There – You never really know who it touches.  If you’re a musician – PERFORM.  Go out in a park and play, go to a nursing home and play, make a YouTube video and play, sit in your backyard/frontyard and play...If you’re a painter – PAINT.  Rent a studio, post your work online, paint outside in a park...If you’re a writer – WRITE.  Go to Starbucks, a Park, your room, your yard and WRITE.  Publish your work, get it out there.  Get yourself out there...touch the world.  You never know who it will affect and encourage.


Write your mission statement – one sentence.  If you know your why, the how and all the rest will follow.  Most of us need time to know our why.  Focus on how you’ll contribute to the world’s people and it will become clear.  Take what you do and find a way to make a world contribution to people’s wellbeing...you’ll find your purpose there.


Focus on key tasks and competencies to get to the next level.  Lack of focus is the bane of creative, intelligent people.  The “squirrel” syndrome is easy to fall into because you have a lot of interests.  Working to a higher level requires work, discipline, passion and a sense of direction...this is work and is often avoided under the excuse of “a lot of interests...”  I’m doing research...I don’t know what I want...”  The trouble is that we usually know EXACTLY what we need to do and refuse to do it.   The universe has given you the keys...put them in the lock, turn the key and follow the path.  Don’t get caught up in your mind.  If you do, you won’t get there.  Take the challenge of following your goals and taking concrete steps towards them every day...A life without regrets is a life worth living!  You know what to do, now go and do it...!


Celebrate Moments of Joy.  When you have moments of success, happiness, intimacy, or just good feelings, take a few minutes and celebrate.  Share it with a loved one.  Journal it, make a healthy meal, go take a walk, purchase something you’ve promised yourself…  Your gratitude will bring more of these moments..


Look for joy and you’ll find it.  Finding the humor and joy in life is an art.  If you look for it, you’ll find something to hold on to, to make you smile, to be excited about, to be grateful for...It will change your attitude and the attitudes of those you encounter.  Some people just bring joy with them, be one those people for others.


Drama is part of life, work, human experience...find a way to deal with it.  Trying to change what is, is a form of insanity.  If you find that certain things repeat themselves, try to accept it, break the cycle, find a positive way to deal with it.


Communication is the key to success.  All of management is communication.  If you can’t get your point across you’ll work for those who can.  Are you a person who gives life to people through how you communicate with them?  You can probably name those people who had that ability and you’re thankful for them.  Commit to being that person for you partner, kids, family, friends, colleagues, employees, customers...Everyone is your customer.  Tough words, because the responsibility is yours. 


Don’t be afraid of your customers, employees, colleagues, bosses, parents, children.  Address the issues as politely and honestly and diplomatically as possible but address them.  Letting things go or fester will only cause you pain in the near and long term.  Do your best to keep current.  Remember that conflict is change waiting to happen and it will be good.  Find a way to make it good.  Change how you’re doing things, learn something new. 


You learn by doing.  Play an instrument to learn an instrument, Learn to Love by loving, Learn to forgive by forgiving, learn to move on by moving on, learn to Work by working...  There is no other way.  Everything else is a false promise.


See your relationships from both sides.  Understanding the other perspective and seeing relationships as a mirror of yourself will change everything for you.  The difficulties show how you are difficult.  Learn from these experiences.  Relationships are the primary place to learn what you need to learn in this reality.


Find Your “Why” and the “How” will take care of itself.  Know why you jump out of bed in the morning.  If it’s not your job, find something that’s important and do it, first thing in the morning if possible.  Make what interests you portable if possible so you can do it anywhere you are.


Find what supports you and feeds you and do it!  Sharing/Listening with your Partner, a morning Routine, regular intimacy with your partner, daily gratitude, writing, exercising, being in Nature, video instruction on what interests you, journaling...


Be good to your partner, you need the support!  Learn how to encourage your partner, learn what they need, give it to them, be thankful when they give it to you.  You need the support; they need your support.  Your partner can really be a key catalyst to your transformation and likewise you to theirs.  Don’t focus on your differences as issues but as ways of completing each other.  Your commonalities become stronger as you share and keep up your end of the bargain.  Follow through with your partner...they will appreciate and gain strength from your reliability and trustworthiness.


Remember your first love.  Music, Studying, Dreams...remember what got you excited, motivated, up early, thinking about, wanting to learn more...  Find or rediscover those things periodically and go back to basics.  Sometimes it’s helpful to imagine how you would have done things differently at earlier moments in your life.  Maybe you can start those things/interests/instruments/activities again and see how it fits today.  You may rediscover parts of yourself that you lost or are laying dormant.  No matter how long you’ve been on the road, you can start again, do it differently, take a new path or revive and old path.  We’re all just living one big moment/the present.  It may have taken you a long time to get to this awareness but you’re here and can move forward.  Don’t get stuck in regret, do it again the way you wished you had the courage to do it the first time...


Let Your Body Rest and Self-Heal.  Night sweats, fevers are indications that your body is dealing with its issues naturally.  We tend to want to medicate these healing processes away.  Let them happen and embrace them.  Rest and dealing with fear/stress are the most important healing processes that we have some control over.  Listen to your body and follow its direction...or it will get worse and you’ll be forced to pay attention!


Be humble, realize that the issues you’re having with people is what they’re having with you.  Which is it, the chicken or the egg with relationship challenges??  To you it seems to be their problem, to them it’s you.  You can only control yourself to try to improve yourself first, don’t call people names, speak your truth and get busy improving yourself. 


Keep conflict resolution current.  The longer conflict goes on, the worst it gets or it never gets addressed and resolved.  Sometime a break helps calm and clarify, so a bit of distance helps.  Don’t let it go on too long.  The closer the relationship and the more important the relationship the shorter the period needs to be.  Light language helps.


Writing helps with goals, troubles, thoughts, focus and manifesting.  Use writing to get your thoughts out, deal with internal issues, focus on your goals, track your progress on goals and manifest the things you want.  There is a power in writing that can only be experienced (not explained).  Just do it and you’ll see.


Be thankful for your challenges, they are leading you somewhere and are your teachers...embrace your lessons with love.  All of the issues and challenges I have today are my teachers/friends/angels.  The daily struggle of life gives you something to live for:  growth-improvement-new experiences-good things.  Corrie Ten Boom’s example of the backside of an embroidered scarf is informative.  The twists, turns, darkness, contrast, conflicts are knarly to look at from behind but the front is a beautiful work of art...this is our life – often tough and perplexing but ultimately colorful and beautiful.


Don’t be afraid of confrontation with anyone.  We live in fear of confronting issues, people, problems, our own addictions.  This fear brings suffering, angst and a lot of other unnecessary issues.  Usually the confrontation is much less scary than imagined.  Often it brings healing and moving forward.  It confrontation brings a break, then maybe a break was necessary as well.  You’ll only know that from being on the other side of the confrontation.  Life really is a learning experience and we’re challenged daily to grow, experience, learn, relearn – we’re the student and the teacher for others and ourselves.  Embrace it!


Start with the goal in mind before addressing conflict.  We so often get angry and hit back at people, especially love ones.  Stop, take a breath, take some time and refocus on what you want from the relationship.  If the goal is a better relationship, make sure your conflict resolution is also from a good place and not an attack.  Counter attacks don’t bring the satisfaction that you think they will.  Counter attacks just bring more contempt and break down the relationship further. 


Subsititute Good Activities for Addiction.  One way to beat addiction is by squeezing it out with a healing, nourishing, nurturing activity.  Rather than watch T.V., play an instrument, read a book, exercise, take a walk, call someone...  Do anything during that addiction time to fill up the space.  Do it consistently until it becomes the habit.  We naturally tend to fall into ruts so creat a "rut" that is lifegiving for you and you'll enjoy the benefit.



Eliminate the T.V.  You really can’t be serious about doing anything of consequence if you watch T.V.  Strong statement but true.  Modern Society has many potholes and T.V. is one of them.  There are others, each with their own brand of poison and issues.  They all have one thing in common:  they take away your life which is your time in mindless activity that could be better spent elsewhere.


Break up your goals into small, achievable, daily rituals that move you forward.  “Eat an elephant one small bite at a time.”  This is great advise for important, difficult goals that require you to do things you currently cannot do.  Make it a simple ritual that you can practice multiple times daily and watch it grow and improve more quickly that you could imagine.


Keep making progress towards your goals.  If you stop pursuing your goals, your goals will lose energy and interest in you.  Feed the goals/your purpose and it will come back.  We all get off track from time to time and our life is waiting for us to turn back and get involved again.  You can lose yourself but you’ll find it/yourself again by just taking the steps, journaling and letting your inner self come out.  It’s just too powerful to keep it down for very long. 


Your path is clear – settle your mind and discover it.  Meditation has a bad rap in many ways and mindfulness is a fad.  Maybe not!  Your inner self, God within, Christ within, Higher Self is trying to get through to you on a daily basis and over a long time during your life.  Settle your mind, quiet yourself and listen to your messages.  Do something about what you hear TODAY!


Do the work for the sake of the work not recognition.  Most of the important thinkers, innovators, writers, musicians were never recognized for their work.  This illustrates that the work is important for its own sake and not to gain recognition or reward.  Just do what you find motivated to do and see it through.  Disregard the recognition motive or money motive...nothing wrong with these things but they are results or consequences not motivators.


March 2021


Force yourself to use and understand what you already have.  The desire for the new and the latest can keep you chasing distractions.  Get your groove, produce, make something happen before looking to the new and latest.  Often the cutting edge of technology does more to cut you than help.  If you feel like you’ve really used up what you have and have learned it top to bottom, you’ll be ready for the next step and take it and feel good about the investment.


Keep your routine even if you’re in pain – it's your way out.  There will always be an excuse for not keeping your routine/discipline/ritual.  This is a test!  Keep with it even if it’s tough, makes someone mad...It’s what gives you life and purpose.


Limit your choices and force yourself to create with limited tools.  Find those tools you already have in your shed and remember why you wanted them and use them.  Limit your creative tools to one or two and see what you can do.  You are a musician, creative person and can make something out of limited means...that’s what you do.  Show yourself and use it as a creative method. 


Get in touch with what moves you, what interests you, what fascinates you, what challenges you and don’t let go of it.  You gotta have a Long Term View...Some ideas, projects, interests, goals can take a lifetime and maybe even then you’re not finished!  A good friendship, a marriage, music, art, writing, creativity...all take a long time to develop.  Be in there for the long haul and celebrate every small victory, understanding, awareness, talent acquired/developed, new thing learned...This “following of your bliss” will lead you to where you need to be even in very dark moments.


Hard work and struggle bring the satisfaction of achievement.  Expect to face challenges, expect to grow through struggle, expect to overcome.  Take time to reflect and drink in achievement.  It’s easy to just see the struggle and not celebrate the successes.  Take baby steps if that’s all you have time for.  Each move forward, creates momentum and increases the progress.


The Universe is in Control.  Often we think we have control over things...we don’t.  Our impact is really very small and our control even smaller.  Trust and Surrender without Fear is the only way to deal with this lack of control.  Take each day as it comes and be prepared for it to be your last...


Fight through the veil of frustration and keep going until you win the lesson, it will be sweet.  It’s so easy to get frustrated and give up.  Sometimes the successful conclusion is just one more attempt away, one more look at the manual, one more try...keep on it, you’ll be glad to get to the other side. 


Synchronicity People bring interesting synergies-connections to just about any endeavor.  These people will find you, recognize them and take the plunge.  They come into your life for a very interesting learning experience and you will provide the same for them.  It’s like handing messages to each other in class in junior high. 


Look for your Epiphany and follow it through.  It may not be a burning bush or an audible voice but it’s real and happens.  A discovery of software that makes your affirmation possible is an excellent example.  It could also be an off handed comment from a friend, enemy or loved one.  Whatever and wherever it is or comes from, FOLLOW IT!  It may be just the beginning of a long journey, but START IT.


Be Inspired by people who have done things that you want to do.  If someone else has done what you want to do, it’s possible.  If someone else is doing what you want to do, network with them.  Let the example of others inspire you.  If you can’t find a role model, BE the role model.  Mentor others as they come to you and take it as an opportunity to grow more into your dream person...the person that others look up to and want to emulate.


Be comfortable in your own skin.  Learn to be good with being alone.  It’s challenging to turn off phones, T.V., conversations with friends/family.  It’s important to learn how to find a quiet place within yourself that allows you to center, relax, let your creativity flow, look to the future, let go of the past, let the stress pass through you without sticking. 


Be comfortable with who you are.  Don’t worry about other people’s opinons including your parent’s opinion.  Trust that you know where you’re going, you’ll make good choices, you’ll learn from challenging circumstances, you’ll learn from your bad choices as well.  There are no mistakes, only chances to learn and grow.


Consistency and Commitment will bring results.  It’s so easy to make exceptions, not keep with the program and letting things go.  Resist this at all costs.  Falling off the wagon doesn’t help relieve anything but only compounds pain.  The real issue is to find commitments that are life giving and more productive than the addictive ones...


Learn your lessons, even from teachers of the opposite.  I learned love from the loveless, I learned the need for forgiveness from those who refuse to forgive, I learned to let go from those who hold on.  Your teachers are right there, learn or you’ll join in their folly.  The same teacher will also teach you important lessons and give you the next step, look for that too.  Your greatest teacher will be the one inside of you.  Those without malice will also be your teachers, learn from them, they are revealing your weaknesses that you need to address.


Get rid of Clutter!!!  It’s so easy for certain personality types to hold on and hoard things....let it go and make room for the new and better.  When you’re in a transition from fat to slim, old to new...getting rid of things just makes room for the good, new, future and brings joy to the process.  This goes for clothes, equipment, knick-knacks, old symbols, software, old thinking, old ways of feeling, old relationships, old thoughts...the NEW and IMPROVED is coming and looking for space to roost.


Do YOUR STUFF!  It’s so easy to play other people’s music even when you’re doing experimental stuff.  Just do your stuff...even if you think it’s dumb, worthless, noise, not good...just do it and you’ll get better, learn, create something that makes sense to you.  Don’t live someone else’ life...make it yours.  You’ll know what you like by simply doing it.


Know your why – the how will work itself out.  If you know why you’re working so hard it helps with motivation and the how.  The universe will take care of the how if you know your why.  Why can be projects, things that interest you, your “bliss”, your life’s purpose...Knowing your “whys” will help you understand your purpose and give you a daily roadmap of what to do.  Your routine will help with this if it’s designed around things that matter to you.  Something as simple as reading a book will propel you forward in unexpected ways.  Your curiosity will lead you to things you need to know and your “teacher” will appear because you’re ready and curious.


Listen to your GUT!  There will be times when you'll know something is wrong but not know what.  Listen to your instincts, watch for signs and give credence to what it shows you.  Your mind and thoughts may not help but your inner wisdom will guide you if you let it.  Your partner may very well be the person who has the info that you need to know to solve the puzzle!


Deal with “Frazzle” by taking breaks, reaching for the thought that brings peace, give someone a hug...  Your daily stress level is something that needs to be managed. Often your stress is simply not real and it’s in your mind so be vigilant to watch your thoughts.  The prayer:  “Please heal my fear-based thoughts” helps me to get to another place.  I use it when I’m up in the middle of the night to get back to sleep...use it often!


Pitch to your strengths – Do what you love and get energy/joy from it.  So often we spend too much time and energy on the heavy things...Do what you love and gain strength from it.


Your daily routine will save your life and keep you moving forward even in difficult moments.  Use your routine to keep you on track and put you back on track when you fall off the wagon.  Do an abbreviated version of your routine if that’s all you can do BUT, DO IT NO MATTER WHAT!!!  The commitment will work for you in a way you don’t now understand...


Your actions will show your priorities.  Your life is a daily test of your real priorities.  If your priority is your family - when it's threatened, you defend it regardless of the cost.  If your personal development is a priority, you'll keep with your growth pattern before doing other things.  We're constantly demonstrating our priorities...this is life's daily challenge.


February 2021


Take a break, change your scenery, forget about everything, turn off the phone...Tough to do but really necessary, let's see how it goes!


So what stokes the fear and gets you off track?  Stress, taking on other people's issues, taking yourself too seriously, taking your work too seriously.  Give yourself a break, T on things that give you life and stoke your creativity.  Tomorrow will be a better day!


January 2021


I'm really not sure how this whole life change started or why it made sense and I was able to follow through this time...but I'm glad it did take.


I started out obese, unable to stop over eating.  I was also struggling with over spending and living in fear.  2020 was a terrifying place to be with the economy freezing up, job security out the window, the world in a funky freefall.  


The upside was that I was not traveling anymore and able to spend time with my family.  My wife had already decided she was going to get in shape and started a morning exercise routine.  I followed her lead and we did it together.  After a month or so of this exercise it became part of our life and we were seeing the benefit.


In the midst of this new habit I listened to Steve Gundry's recording about diet.  I decided to try a very simple diet:  no sugar, no junk food (chips, fried food, popcorn, pizza, french fries, coke...), no alcohol, no sweets.  I started eating good protein, nuts, and cut out the garbage.  I lost 30 lbs within a few months.  My blood work confirmed what Gundry promised.  


The next big change was preparing a daily ritual that I would stick to on a daily basis.  I always wanted to speedread but never took it seriously.  I decided to do it and now I'm reading a book per day.  The exercising is a constant.  I read the Bible 7 chapters a day from each major part:  Torah, History, Psalms, Wisdom, Prophets, Gospels, Epistles.  I write in a Gratitute/Evidence Journal, one page per day, I journal on the computer, listen to a Blinkist recording, do PSTEC programming/affirmations, write a Binaural Song per day, practice my music.  The ritual is sacred and helps me move forward.  Just a few minutes on any task gives me energy and movement forward.  I'm still not sure why this is sticking but it is.


I read Anthony deMello's book - Awareness.  I was struck by the concept of being aware and losing fear.  Maybe the real meaning of life is to learn to lose fear and just be who you are, do what you feel you should do or find interesting and experience life.  In this view even the business stress becomes a drama that's unreal and you can hold it lightly because it's not real.  Maybe I've come on to something...maybe I'll allow myself to do more of what's important to me and not feel I have to stress to pay for my life!  


I've come to the conclusion that we're on this earth to learn how to get beyond Fear and follow our bliss  So what do you do with this knowledge/awareness?  Act as if there is nothing to fear and follow your bliss  Do what you feel you need to do.  See life for the game it is and play it, enjoy it and go for the plan A.